Found Mr Perfect , BUT there's one issue

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How do I broach the subject of smelly feet?

Without causing him to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable?

It's really putting me of him

I'd be upfront and say "your feet are really smelly" in a jokey way.

Yes that's what I would do eg pooh what's that smell, is it your feet or your shoes?

It would put me off too tbh especially if you share a bed.

If he wears trainers offer to stick them in the washing machine for him. Or as others have suggested bring it up in a light hearted way. I'd his sense of smell Ok? Do you think he realised?

If he's that "perfect", he will understand when you politely tell him how badly his feet smell.

Lol you just have to tell him 🙈 And maybe a couple of times.. my partner had bad breath for a period and I just had to come out and say it. I also got floss and mouthwash for him and toothpick things as he said he found flossing hard 🙄 Problem was solved over the course of a couple of months. He was mortified and so upset when I first said it but it's kind of a joke now and i can just say to him 'brush your teeth' now if he's had a long day or something

You have to just come out and say it and maybe buy some new socks or odour eaters or special soap lol, I don't think smelly feet are as embarrassing as bad breath at least!!

He doesn't wear socks with his trainers , iv already said I wear socks or my shoes smell.

Iv said have a shower if you want, he says il have one tonight.

I'm just going to have to come out with it, I'm cringing at the thought of it tho. It is definitely a put of for me.

My boyfriend has the worst feet but he knows this so was the first to comment on it which made it much easier.

Now if they stink I just bring him clean socks which he changes and chucks minging ones in the wash.

Be gentle telling him though.

It took me ages and ages to broach this with DH. He is a postman so very active, up and down tenement stairs all day in heavy boots but he then comes home and lounges around with the same socks on. Sometimes they're really vile and I started out by apologising and very gently asking if he'd mind terribly changing his socks. Now I throw clean socks at him and say "your feet are fucking stinking, get in that bathroom and wash them!"

Be brutal, but jokey... My DH is in work boots all day and his feet make me gip. His work boots stay outside and he washes his feet when he gets in.

How about, when he gets in and takes off his shoes you say 'Mr Perfect, I love you dearly, and you really are perfect, but, bloody hell your feet stink, I think your trainers are going to walk off on their own' then take them outside whilst holding at arms length and holding your nose, then tell him to 'sod off upstairs and wash his feet, otherwise he'll be killing all the house plants' - do all of this with a good laugh and a smile

My DH had smelly feet when we first dated and I went out and got him foot spray, shoe spray and foot salt. Sat with him and told him straight 😂 then I gave him the stuff I got for him.

I think he was embarrassed about it. Maybe I was too harsh? But hey, it worked!

I can help here because I am a man who had smelly feet.

I will bet my last penny that he's wearing the wrong socks.

Get him cotton socks. If he is the type to wear wool or polyester socks, it will be making the problem worse. If he changes to cotton, the problem will go away.

Trust me on this one. It works.

He's not wearing any socks!

I would just say "oh my God, your feet stink!"

Trainers with no socks! Well that's your answer. They must absolutely reek.

He can't be that perfect if you don't feel comfortable telling him about a minor issue

Trainers with no socks are bound to stink. Tell him. Cheerfully. But tell him.

It's not just his feet is it?

The trainers will honk too - both are a problem. Even if he feet are washed clean and don't smell, if he puts them in the smelly old trainers they will niff.

Get him to do the following:
wear socks
buy new trainers regularly
wash trainers in the dish washer
have at least two or three rotating pairs of trainers to allow them to air properly and dry out between wears
use Driclor (lethaly powerful anti-perspirant on his feet over night.

Thanks, yes it's early days but so far that's the only thing that's putting me of him!

Il have to make a joke , maybe offer to wash his trainers for him , I'm going to buy him some trainer socks too.

Il update when iv had the courage to tell him, I just don't want to offend or embarrass him . But it needs sorting

If the trainers are really bad they need replacing. Then trainer socks, bare feet whenever possible and obviously, good hygiene.

One thing, though, really stinky feet may be caused by a fungal infection and that needs his GPS advice so if he's defensive or upset be very matter of fact and invent a brother or friend who also suffered and found a way to improve things.

Obviously don't invent a whole brother you don't have,my hat will lead to a thread about a perfect girlfriend who tells lies.

When I managed staff it came to me to have the difficult conversations .
Best method: bright and breezy "shit sandwich ".
i.e. "You're really great and I like you a lot. However you really need to sort.....then you'll be damn near perfect!"

To put in perspective, the so called stinky trainers were at the bottom of my steps and I could smell them in my bedroom 😷

He must know they smell. Im definitely buying him socks and washing the trainers.

He must know his feet stink though. I can smell mine when they've been in pumps with no tights or socks.

Can you not just say, "Man, your feet honk. I'm surprised your nose hairs haven't dropped out"? And then hold his trainer up to his nose and make him smell it?

Those trainers need replacing. There's only so much that washing can do & these are well beyond that.

He needs a minimum of two pairs of trainers, preferably more.

He needs to wear socks. (I hate wearing socks with trainers in the summer, but if I don't my trainers are vile, if I do they're totally non smelly).