Missing family that I'm NC with.

[CaulkheadUpNorf]

If you're NC with family, do you miss them? Does that stop or do you just accept that you miss them and just live with it?

I'm sad. Fine, but sad in a "just want to call my mum" type way. Obviously not my mum but you know what I mean.

Binge watching the new series of OITNB which is wonderfully distracting!!

Ah, yes. Have been there so many times.

Eventually I think we learn ways to get through the dark times - we find other support, learn self-compassion, find ways to distract ourselves.

A big part of the process for me was accepting that feeling sad is ok. It's part of the grieving process, and an important part of life. Recognising the emotion, acknowledging it and giving it some attention can help relieve the pain of it. If we grow up in an environment where the more difficult emotions are not acceptable we have probably learned to be ashamed of them and to suppress them.

Hope you feel better today.

Before my father died I missed having A father but not him personally
I'm also nc with my brother and again I miss having A sibling and I do feel a bit sad when I think about some fun times we had. But then I remember all the shit and am very very glad I don't have to deal with it