Said he would not go out with s bigger person.

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We were sat watching tv, and on tv was take me out. Been with my partner 17 months. Live together. And he said I wouldn't go out with a big woman. He has said this many time in different scenarios. Now just him saying that indicates to me he is still looking?
Don't really know how to take that to be honest.

I wouldn't go out with a fat man. I would also end my relationship if my partner became really overweight and didn't wish to change (obviously if it was medical reasons I wouldn't). It doesn't make me shallow I just don't find fat attractive and I see it as a sign of them no longer making an effort

Most really overweight peole do want to change, it's just it's not that easy. And before you ask, I'm size 10 so I'm not talking from personal experience . But I do have some empathy.

He's not looking elsewhere, he's just telling you his type. Many people aren't attracted to obese/smokers/drug users/unemployed/alcoholics etc... Unless you're going to become a couch potato and take up compulsive eating then you have nothing to worry about. He likes you, if you change into a completely different person with a different personality and lifestyle of course he won't want you.

I wouldn't go out with someone who said they wouldn't go out with someone overweight. Genuinely.

My husband is ridiculously fit and toned and always has been in the 16 years we've been together. He really enjoys exercise so it would be fair to assume he will carry on like this. However, if he were to put weight on, other than concerns for his health, I could not love him any less because he is the most brilliant person I have ever met.

Ironically, I was in a relationship with an overweight man for six years before dh and he was an absolute selfish piece of shit. I thankfully dumped him, not because of his weight but because of his ugly heart and soul.

Op, what your partner's telling you is that his love for you is conditional. Conditional on you keeping the figure you have now forever.

I didn't see anything wrong with his comment and think that the posters who are alarmed at this are projecting at bit. People change all the time, when they're in a couple the other person either accepts the change - or they don't - and they're free to say so/move on if they want to.

I don't think he was warning you or anything sinister, OP. Just idle conversation with his partner.

Nothing is wrong with what he said.

It's perfectly OK to not like larger sized people.