AIBU to have a little cry?

[whereisthesunshine]

It's my 35th birthday tomorrow and it just dawned on me that for the first time in 9 years there will be no one there with me. Dh walked out for OW about 11 months ago and whilst I feel generally a lot stronger and mostly positive, it has just hit me now.

I used to love to wake up to coffee brought to me in bed, flowers etc. Tomorrow morning I will wake up alone and it'll just be like every other morning. I know he's been a dickhead and long term I'm better off without him, but right now I'm miserable.

I am going out with friends at the weekend and will get messages etc from family (too far away to visit) but I can't seem to shake the sadness today.

AIBU to feel like that even though, all things considered, things are not that bad?

YANBU! it's your birthday and you can cry if you want to!

Would you be able you plan something to do tomorrow? Even if you'll be doing it alone? Go out for a meal maybe?

Have a little cry, but then can you plan something nice for the morning? Expensive coffee you wouldn't normally have, fresh flowers, your favourite weekend/holiday breakfast? A new book, or maybe some pamper time at home with face mask etc, good chocolates? (not sure if you'll be working so some might not be time possible)

Sorry your feeling sad and for what an arse your ex has been.

Happy birthday for tomorrow x

Have the best day that you can.

Not to be opened till tomorrow

Thank you, everyone. I've got a long day at work tomorrow and won't be back till after 8pm. Got some nice food sorted for evening. We always make a fuss on people's birthdays at work so there will be cake etc. That's what I mean with 'things aren't that bad'. It's the morning really - nice coffee might help 😊

The first birthday I had on my own I did absolutely nothing. Stayed in bed. Wore PJ's all day. Had take away delivered. Drank wine. Smoked a spliff, farted a lot, had a nice soak in the bath, had fantasy sex with myself. Basically all the things I couldn't do before and now could do without a care in the world.
So don't feel sorry for your self, EMBRACE the freedom.
Have a happy, happy, birthday and really enjoy the day xxxx

Wish I was 35 OP, you are so young and there's a big world out there waiting for you!

I know I am being silly, Adora. It's just not where I wanted to be. Hey ho, onwards and upwards.

Round your friends up, it'll be Friday night. All the cool kids play on a Friday.
Have a good one

If heading out for work I would have nice coffee with mums net before leaving, and would wear my favourite work outfit, make up, hair and undies so I felt good about myself and comfy, as weird as that probably sounds.

If you've time on the way home today, buy yourself something nice for breakfast- croissants or smoked salmon or both! Plan to pick up a costa on th way in.

Get dressed up in your favourite clothes, fix your face, but yourself some stupidly posh coffee and a nice breakfast for the morning, enjoy the fuss in work, get a whopper of a steak or whatever you fancy for tea (including a big tub of naice ice cream). Start your very own brand new birthday ritual. I get it though 💐x

Sorry you feel this way. I know exactly how it feels. My first birthday on my own was horrific. Nothing to add, but to say happy birthday. Try and fill it with things you like.
Lots of us have been there and we all know how you're feeling
You are not alone xxx

It's just another one if those firsts that will be different from now on, isn't it? Have bought nice breakfast bits, favourite outfit ready to wear and I've just changed the sheets 😁 Bottle of Prosecco and lemon cheesecake in the fridge for tomorrow night when I will be alone. Above all, I will choose to feel good! Thanks, everyone.

for you birthday girl.
Treat yourself!

Happy birthday today x

Happy birthday Where is, hoping the sunshine is as lovely where you are as it is here this morning and you've had a nice morning. Have a fab time at the weekend with your friends x

Happy birthday 🎂 😊.

Have a great day! ❤ x

Happy birthday from a stranger 😜

That face was supposed to be wine! Doh!

Happy birthday! Hope brekkie was yum, and you enjoy tonight's feast too!

Happy 35th Birthday ☕️🌷🌸🌺💐🍾

Happy birthday OP! Enjoy your coffee, cake, cheesecake, prosecco, and time with friends at the weekend!

Happy birthday OP

Happy Birthday OP!

Treat yourself and enjoy your day

Happy birthday! Hope you enjoy your prosecco and cheesecake!!