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Original poster

Some wanker put me on Tinder!

42 replies

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 20/05/2017 10:35

Seriously!!!

I can't get rid of the profile- I don't know what email address they used!

I know who it is. Only one person I know would find this funny...

The most humiliating thing is that I only found out because one of DH workmates saw me on there.

Luckilly DH trusts me, and he had a (not nasty) giggle about the pic the person used- stolen from my facebook, and one which originally contained DH too (he's been cut out).

Feel free to piss yourselves- if you can help ME see the funny side of it, too, then great!

How the HELL do I get it removed????

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 20/05/2017 10:36

Oh and I couldn't evwn be arsed to nc. I don't care.

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 20/05/2017 10:40

Have you emailed tinder saying somebody is using that profile for catfishing reasons.

SparklingRaspberry · 20/05/2017 10:43

I thought tinder was connected to your fb?

If so I'd be changing your fb password

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 20/05/2017 10:50

This could have happened, actually- she'd possibly guess that my fb password is the same one as my twitter (which she had access to as it was a work-related one).

I'm trying to find the email address to email Tinder.

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Trills · 20/05/2017 10:52

In order to sign up to Tinder you must have a Facebook account.

So this person has either made a fake Facebook account with your picture, or has used your Facebook account.

Go change your Facebook password and tell it to log out from all devices.

Then download Tinder on your phone and log in using your Facebook.
If your Facebook account was used, then you now have control of this Tinder account and you can delete it.

Damia · 20/05/2017 10:53

If you know who put it on there get them to take it down?

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 20/05/2017 10:53

Omg...thank you!

Again, I know it sounds like I'm making a huge drama over nothing.

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Plumkettle · 20/05/2017 10:55

What's this person's problem?

CandleLit · 20/05/2017 10:56

You need to change your password OP. Don't give out passwords you use for other stuff. Are you absolutely sure it is this woman from work? That is a whole other problem if so...

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 20/05/2017 10:59

It's definitelly an ex-collegue. I'm almost certain. The most classic reason in the world- a knockback (from me) which turned into a bit of a vendetta.

Password now changed...

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forumdonkey · 20/05/2017 11:03

Whoever has done this, has either got access to your facebook account or they have made another facebook account with your pictures and your name. Have you looked for another FB account?

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 20/05/2017 11:22

Sorted. They'd hacked my email address too!

All passwords changed- no one would ever guess them. DH can't even spell my new password! (His car insurance etc comes to my email address, so he has access).

He's finding the whole thing funny- but would it make me a drama wueen to admit I feel violated? This is going to sound stupid, but it's the picture more than anything- they had to cut out DH and DC, which is what they were suggesting I do when they hit on me!

I know, I knoe people have bigger issues. It's extremely rare that I create a post like this- I'm usually the one making idiotic threads about PLL or manky toes! 😂

Sorry.

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Trills · 20/05/2017 11:28

Ugh. Twat. You are not unreasonable to find it unfunny and gross.

Plumkettle · 20/05/2017 11:28

Hang on, I'm confused. A knock back from you? Is she a lesbian then? She hit on you and you rejected her and now has it in for you?

Trills · 20/05/2017 11:31

Are you saying that the person who put you on Tinder has hit on you in the past? That makes it extra gross.

Trills · 20/05/2017 11:32

"Hey, date me!"

"No thanks."

"You should be dating whether you want to or not"

Yuck. That really is quite violating.

PollytheDolly · 20/05/2017 11:34

I'd be absolutely livid!!!!! What a disgusting thing to do Angry

metalmum15 · 20/05/2017 11:38

I don't know anything about Tinder, but if you have a Facebook account and this woman (?) Is on there, I would block her. She sounds like some kind of stalker.

Judashascomeintosomemoney · 20/05/2017 11:45

Uh no you're not being a drama queen. If it had been done as a joke by a friend I'd still be a bit Hmm but this was done maliciously obviously.

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 20/05/2017 11:58

She is no longer on my fb. We fell out because of the knockback.

Yes, we both like girls.

Realization has just struck too- a few months ago, I started getting weird emails from dating sites about "my" profile. I dismissed them as spam at the time.

Also one from Adultwork a few weeks ago.

I feel sick!

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KungFuEric · 20/05/2017 12:04

Oh my god, that's such a huge violation op. I wonder if this catfishing is illegal in some way? It should be.

CandleLit · 20/05/2017 12:05

Wait, wait, wait OP! You need to use different passwords for each account! This is internet safety 101.

She has actually committed an offence by accessing your account without authorisation. I'd report it to fb and twitter. If you are concerned at all, report to police too.

Changedname3456 · 20/05/2017 12:08

If she hacked your email and social media then she's committed a criminal offence. I get that it might be difficult to prove that now, but that shouldn't stop you from reporting this to the police. It's not a funny "joke" now and has the potential to become a lot more serious if you don't take action.

I would check any other accounts for which you may have used the same (or a similarly guessable) password. I'd also take a look at any deleted and sent emails in your mailbox and check that she hasn't signed you up to anything else, or authorised changes to email addresses for any other accounts (banking, amazon, online retailers, etc).

You may have got lucky and she may have stopped at just Tinder, but if she knows what she's doing and is malicious enough...

6demandingchildren · 20/05/2017 12:08

Someone from my town has just been convicted of doing stuff like this.
If you uncover lots of this type of behaviour from this person I suggest you consider contacting the police. I would also feel violated

gamerchick · 20/05/2017 12:12

Again, I know it sounds like I'm making a huge drama over nothing

No you're not, you're undereacting if anything.

She's committed an offence and at the very least I would want a policeman to have a quiet word with her.

Or alternatively go round, pin her up against the wall and threaten to rip her fucking spine out if she doesn't lay off.*

*not really but that's how pissed off this would make me.