Some wanker put me on Tinder!

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Seriously!!!

I can't get rid of the profile- I don't know what email address they used!

I know who it is. Only one person I know would find this funny...

The most humiliating thing is that I only found out because one of DH workmates saw me on there.

Luckilly DH trusts me, and he had a (not nasty) giggle about the pic the person used- stolen from my facebook, and one which originally contained DH too (he's been cut out).

Feel free to piss yourselves- if you can help ME see the funny side of it, too, then great!

How the HELL do I get it removed????

Thank you.

Any "official" stuff is under a different password anyway. (Bank, Amazon, etc).

I need to calm down before I report, as I'm a bit of a wreck.

Gamer DH has just said exactly that! He no longer finds it funny- he just caught me crying and apologized profusely about not taking it seriously. He's used to me laughing at comments about my hair/disabillity etc, and giving it back five times over!

It would be a good precaution to change them all anyway - to something completely random / unguessable.

You should also look through your sent and deleted items to make very sure. She could have hit "forgot password" which would have emailed you and then changed the password. Once she is/was logged in then it's easy to change the associated email address to one she controls.

30 minutes housekeeping now would be well worth it in terms of peace of mind etc.

I think I'd be going to the police about this as its not even just one thing.

Please report this person to the police. You don't know what they will do with your information in the future. It takes a total weirdo with too much time on their hands and a vindictive streak to bother setting up fake profiles on social media for other people. It could have caused all sorts of bother for your relationship if you didn't trust each other. My DH and I got caught up in an ID fraud problem years ago. We were renting before we bought a house. The co-tenants son used our ID after we left to try to get a mortgage, bank loans and credit cards in our names. We found out when I did a credit check on us and found fraud indicators all over our files. Please be careful and don't take this lightly, there are a raft of new policies and legislation in the UK related to computer crimes that have been brought in to deal with malicious acts.

Can you get the Adultworks account shut down too? If she's actually set you up with a profile there that is potentially much worse.

With both these things, it might be worth taking screenshots of messages she's sent as you, photos she's uploaded etc in case you do want to take action, I appreciate right now your priority is getting these things down, but this will all be useful if you report things later.

I'd go to the police, hacking your emails and private accounts is illegal. I'm sure that catfishing as this person tried to do may be illegal too. She is harassing and cyber stalking you. It is a very clear violation, most of us would be distressed by this and that was her intention. Please go to the police. You need to stamp down on her behaviour now.

Wow that's a whole level of vindictive. I'd actually be really upset about it too, OP.

What a scary person. I agree with stepping things up. She needs to be stopped now before this escalates further. God only knows what else she has been up to. Reporting her could protect others not just you.

Thank you SO much for calming me down- and for not finding it funny! As I mentioned before, the fact that DH (before he realized how upset I was) found it funny made me wonder if IWBU.

I feel guilty also, because she's not "out". Breaking a condidence is a huge thing for me, whatever that person has done- and I feel like I've done that by telling DH about her hitting on me IYSWIM? I really saw no reason to tell him at the time- I saw it as a drunken thing, and never even brought it up until she did a few weeks later. She made a joke about regretting not "forcing wine down me" (I was on painkillers at the time- ironically, after a tipsy fall down a manhole- don't ask!).

Ps, DH knows all about me. Turns out we were sleeping with the same girl at the samw time about ten years before we met...you couldn't make it up!!

What a bastard for doing such a thing. I hope you manage to get your picture taken down.
One reason i will never have photo's uploaded on the internet particularly on Facebook. Its pretty scary how weirdo's can just steal photos from other people. I would consider reporting this person to the police because its identity theft.

Why would you need to out her? Just tell them the facts - she's used your password to access accounts without consent.

Is she using your picture to catfish or is it some sort of warped revenge for not reciprocating her affection?
Neither is good but the catfishing is particularly hateful and shows she may be very unhappy with her lot.

I mean outing her to DH- he didn't know she's secretly gay.

Someone from the police station is popping around on Monday to get copies of things.

You didn't out her. She outed herself by retaliating in this way. She needs to live with the repercussions of her actions.

Thank you for reassueing me. I'm the sort if person who takes secrets to the grave, whatever happens.

Breaking a condidence is a huge thing for me

Do you know what's a bigger thing? Going into someone's social media without permission and making them accounts on dating sites.

Someone who has done that has done so knowing that if you find out you will have to discuss the whole story. They have given up their right to privacy by invading your privacy.