How do I get help for DS who has feelings towards his sister?

[NiamhJensen]

I know this is a really odd post and trust me, it's really embarrassing.

I'm just wondering if there is any help out there. He's 12.

Thank you.

If he is doing sexual education at school though they wouldn't mention touching would they? Do you think he's watched porn maybe? My kids are too young but maybe some lads at school may have sent him links on a mobile if they have one?

Is he exposed to anything he shouldn't be ie porn? It could be that.
If it were me, I would phone the nspcc and I would have a calm no blame/accusatory talk with my son. Just ask open questions "when you said x, what were your reasons for asking".

But I'm no expert. Ring nspcc.

The link posted to 'Brook' website looked very helpful.

I understand your concern with NSPCC but remember they hear this every day all day. Although it's unusual for you and me, it isn't for them and they won't turn on you.

Good luck. Xxx

Sounds harmless from what you have posted. A 12 year old asking about puberty and masturbation is normal, he's just exploring his own feelings and sexuality.

However if you do have a gut feeling that something is wrong then please do seek advice and help, they will be able to guide you.

Op, despite what others have said, you should trust your instincts. If you feel something is wrong then seek help.

It may be nothing, but incest does happen and its better to seek help now on how to put boundaries in place and how to speak to your son then wish you had in the future.

Did you phone the nspcc op?!

Have a very open discussion with each child on their own. Stress the importance of privacy and respect as well as inappropriate sexual relationships.

Your son needs a more indepth chat covering porn. The reality of a healthy relationship and most definitely consent issues and what ok to say and do and what isn't.

You then bring them together and discuss that you've spoken to them individually. That their rooms are private and each need to respect that. If either has comments about the other they ask you.

You also need to mention as you've been extremely open and honest with them you ask them to do the same. You insist it's nothing to feel ashamed about and they won't get into trouble for asking or talking to you.

Then you leave it but watch what happens!

You also need to make your son aware of the consequences of inappropriate behaviours and comments.

I know you think he's only 22 but clearly he's actively curious and developing fast.

I've known alot of sexually active 12 year old (sadly).

Erm that's 12 not 22

I had a chat with my dd about porn at 11. Thankfully her reaction told me she had not yet encountered it.

If you had asked even5 years ago of I thought I would be talking about porn with an 11 year old I would have thought it mad.

Sadly, it is so accessible now.

DS is 6 and very interested I'm girls, he has tried to peak at his sister. He is adopted and we are very clear about seperate spaces for changing etc. We are very clear it is not acceptable to peep at anyone changing etc. I have other friends who walk about nude at home. That's never been us and although it feels sad to be so private at times for us it is the best way. We do stress no one should be ashamed of their bodies, we just don't need to see them naked.

OP based on your last post, I would call the NSPCC for advice. I hope it's nothing and that your DS has heard this somewhere else. Can't imagine being in that situation. Hope you are ok.