What would u make of this txt? Before I kick off!!

[Gigi789]

Hi, I'd be interested to hear what people would think of this, sent to DP by someone I'm pretty sure is attracted to him. For context it's about 2 years old (he had it filed, probably inadvertently as he's a bit of a technophobe hence the basic device) To me it says 'u tried it on with me but we're still cool and I'm sorry I said the things I did when u tried it on and I rebuffed u'. I'd also guess it's a response to his original apology txt. Don't read anything into the Wednesday comment, they would be in the same building every weds and Friday.

I'll report back once I show him what I have. I can't really expand at the mo. Thanks all

They had a disagreement.
He had a meltdown/anxiety attack/sob in front of her and she didn't handle well.
Something work related-lost files,info not passed on,targets not met etc

Lots of possibilities before you even think of a pass being made.

I don't read 'sweet' as an endearment, but as 'the situation is sweet', ie everything's fine. And lots of people lavishly use xx as punctuation in texts and social media posts.

[b]it's not a work situation[\b]

This may explain why it bothers you so much and possibly why you know a bit about her mannerisms etc and that she thinks she is special

She could be an ex and the twice a week is to do with DC and you would therefore expect anything like this txt to be mentioned to you at the time

She could be someone he knows through a sports club, spin class etc

I get why these might cause more concern than a work scenario but they could also have equally innocent explanations.

Most likely other scenario is the lose his rag one - an ex where kids are involved means temper loss can be v costly for the man

A sports/social environment could mean that she has only seen the best/fun side of him before and therefore freaked out by a show of temper with her or another more

You should speak to him but please keep in mind that it does not have to be a red flag just because it is not work

Ok not work, he overdid it at the gym and made a fool of himself by passing out or something? That would freak me out! There really are so many options.

I would be keen to separate my feelings here. Is it the thought that he is cheating or the fear that he might be. For me the fear that he might be would be very hard to separate from anything else and stay rational.

There are a 1000 explanations.
But it being a response to him coming on to her is a very plausible one based on those words.
I don't think you're over-reacting to ask what it was about.
Of course if he did come on to her, he won't tell you.
And he may just play dumb that he can't remember (or be genuinely that he can't, cos it was minor and innocent)
But I suppose he might go shifty and over explain... which will give you a hint.

I would leave it for tonight.
Bide my time and read up on non verbal behaviour first.

www.google.co.uk/amp/www.independent.co.uk/news/science/the-truth-about-lying-its-the-hands-that-betray-you-not-the-eyes-7936522.html%3Famp

It could mean anything - hard to tell with no context
Best to ask straight out and see what he says

Ok without wanting to sound completely bonkers is there a way to retrieve messages from an old style phone sim?

That will depend on the phone but ...

1. You will likely need specialist software which, granted, you could download from the internet
2. SIMs are designed to hold very little data so may not go back as far as you would want
3. The phone settings may not save any of them to SIM

I would also consider whether someone who was on the end of an unwelcome pass which needed apologising for would include the LOL in their 'apology accepted' message let alone apologise for upsetting the person making the pass.

Surely she would be more likely to not apologise for her reaction and make it clear that it should not happen again, along the lines of "I want us to be/remain friends only"

What exactly are you trying to get out of this situation?

You know you can dump someone for any reason and no reason? You don't have to build a solid case that stands up in court.

You can just leave him. Bye bye. This isn't working for me any more.