What would u make of this txt? Before I kick off!!

[Gigi789]

Hi, I'd be interested to hear what people would think of this, sent to DP by someone I'm pretty sure is attracted to him. For context it's about 2 years old (he had it filed, probably inadvertently as he's a bit of a technophobe hence the basic device) To me it says 'u tried it on with me but we're still cool and I'm sorry I said the things I did when u tried it on and I rebuffed u'. I'd also guess it's a response to his original apology txt. Don't read anything into the Wednesday comment, they would be in the same building every weds and Friday.

So you think that he "tried it on" with someone who is attracted to him & they rebuffed him?

... and I also read "sweet" as her saying "It is sweet" (i.e. ok) rather then her using that as a pet name iyswim.

But tbh all these different interpretations just show how pointless it is to spend any thought at all on an old text msg. Surely it matters how DP is now? Not what someone sent him by text 2 years ago!

Was sent To my DP by another female.

If it is a message she sent your DP I read it as he tried it on with her

It could be what you think, or it could be any sort of disagreement.

I'll ask him when I get in tonight, I just don't want to be fobbed off. If it was just a disagreement he would usually say. He's also not very good at apologising (sorry drip feed)

Sounds to me like they've had a barny, they're both apologising and moving on. I do think there's a non-platonic element given the xxx and "sweetie" etc. A (straight) woman would write that to another (straight) woman, or to a man she's romantically linked to. Sorry.

Ok, well you know him better than us OP and I assume your assumptions are based not just on this one message?

Whatever it is she's far too familiar with the sweet and kisses.

He clearly did something to freak her out.

She's a bit 'sweet' 'hun' 'babes' when she speaks so it's not that or the xxxx. It's the 'I'm sorry 2' and 'u did freak me out' which she's softened with a LOL.

I'd think 'Oh my God, someone who writes in text speak Urrgh!' And beyond that I don't think anything much.

But I'd hope that if my DH was coming onto someone else, he'd have higher standards that. No way is he chucking away all these years on someone who says 'Alrite sweet' with no question mark. How do I explain that to my friends?

It could have been a disagreement that got out of hand or an extreme reaction fro him to som4ethign she said in a jokey way which he realized afterwards he'd been over the top.
I don't think that you can extrapolate from that text alone that one or other of them has made an inappropriate pass or tried to kiss or chatted up the other party. TBH I think it's quite a stretch.

I'm not seeing anything about passes being made and rebuffed, just that they fell out over something. I don't read the "sweet" as a term of affection either. I'd honestly not think anything of it! Anyway, it's 2 years old - does it really matter now?

Thanks all x

It matters to me yes or I wouldn't be asking for an outside perspective. Thanks again, it's been useful (and most agree with me which is a shame really)

I read the sweet as OK everything sweet rather than a nickname. Especially given the awful text speak of the rest of the text.

Personally I'd say it could mean anything.

He thought it was funny to put on a clown mask and she was more scared than he expected.

He was going through a tough time and he had a bit of a sob/shout/whatever.

Erm... oh I don't know, there are hundreds of things that could freak you out a bit and make you react oddly then apologise aren't there?

Depends on the area of the country or at least where she's from.

I have a friend who would say "Alright sweet. We're good" meaning "Thanks for that, accepted. We're okay now."

Common vernacular where he is from but not in our area.

As others said, He could have done something in a work sense which he knew he could get into trouble for at work ... kind of backed up by her being willing to work as normal on Weds.

Could have been a pass (something which could spell trouble with his employer) but could be as simple as losing his rag unnecessarily which could also spell trouble at work and may have surprised her if they'd always had a good working relationship

It could mean anything.

Frankly if my wife 'kicked off' over a text that could mean anything because she jumped into conclusions I'd tell her to fuck off.

It could mean anything!! I thnk you're jumping to conclusions.

it's not a work situation and I'm not kicking off until I see his face when I ask him. I think the fact they barely ever text because they would see each other twice a week is an indication it's not nothing.

It just sounds like they had a disagreement to be honest!

I think you're reading too much into it.

I think you're taking a massive leap to conclusions here!

It was two years ago.

Has he given you any reason to suspect him of anything?

It could mean anything.

If she's the xxx type and the Hun/sweetie/babe type then it's even less of an issue.

What's making you so insecure? Your answers are very short/abrupt so maybe expanding on the situation a bit would give a clearer picture.

Yes, I don't see anything affectionate there. 'Alright sweet' matches up with 'We're cool', just means there's no problem.

There's nothing there to suggest someone made a pass at the other, it could be all kinds of situation. If it's two years old he might not even remember what it was about.

I also thought a disagreement but don't like the "sweet" or kisses. just ask