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Original poster

I've just asked my DP to leave

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Emergencynamechange123 · 14/05/2017 14:12

Because this morning, when my DD was being annoying (she's 11) he picked her up by her arms, moved her across the room, dropped her and smacked her bum. I was horrified.

I love(d) him very much, but this isn't acceptable is it? This isn't a difference of parenting styles. He's saying I am crazy and overprotective and being stupid.

I don't want to be one of those people who put their relationship over their children. This is not ok.

OP posts:
RandomMess · 14/05/2017 21:23

Turn this around. Haven't you done an amazing thing, you put your DD first as soon as something happened.

Well done you, so sorry that you are feeling heartbroken as you love(d) him Flowers

Shayelle · 14/05/2017 21:25

Flowers for you op.... and also for you, goingtobeawesome...

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Emergencynamechange123 · 14/05/2017 22:12

Thank you again random internet strangers. I'm an average mum, but I promised myself I wouldn't compromise on my daughter's happiness or safety again.

I'm sat alone now, my mum went home after telling me not to drink too much wine (sorry, mum) and I feel sad, but I also feel if I had squashed this down and was still sat next to DP on the sofa, then I would feel shit in a whole other, ultimately worse, way.

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Original poster
Emergencynamechange123 · 14/05/2017 22:13

Thank you again random internet strangers. I'm an average mum, but I promised myself I wouldn't compromise on my daughter's happiness or safety again.

I'm sat alone now, my mum went home after telling me not to drink too much wine (sorry, mum) and I feel sad, but I also feel if I had squashed this down and was still sat next to DP on the sofa, then I would feel shit in a whole other, ultimately worse, way.

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Naicehamshop · 14/05/2017 22:21

You've done well, in very difficult circumstances. Be proud. Flowers

Christinedonna · 14/05/2017 22:43

If my DDs dad laid a finger on he'd be gone. Family or not. Having grown up watching a domestic abuse relationship that me and my siblings were then subject to I just know it's not the answer. I choose parenting and teaching my child over smacking them. And I'd choose my daughter over anyone! You done the right thing OPFlowers

Out2pasture · 14/05/2017 23:24

only you know if it is LTB worthy an offence. spanking is no longer a parenting technique that is acceptable. often it is a familiar technique that someone experienced and shows more of a lack of skill in dealing with challenging situations than anything else.

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