help help help! I really need to get through the next few hours

[queenofawkward]

Just spoke to my best friend who I'm in love with and he was telling me how great things are going with his new girlfriend (He knows how I feel and I know I need to probably just back away from him but I'm trying to get over him without losing our friendship - anyway thats another thread altogether)

This has hit me like a tonne of bricks. I feel sick and dizzy and I want to throw up and cry but I can't. The thing is I have a date with someone I've been chatting to online in an HOUR. I want to go. I want it to go well. I just feel like dying though (I promise I'm not usually this dramatic)

Any words of wisdom that will calm me down and help me go on this date and feel better about myself? I know I need a better long term solution to my problem but I just need a quick fix just now.

Just seen this thread.

He doesn't want a romantic relationship with you but happily slept with you knowing that you do? Toaster is far too kind a word for him.

Reverse this in your head - if a friend had told you all of this what advice would you give? This guy is not a friend, he's immature at best and you need to reduce/cut contact with him before he really hurts you.

I don't think there is any such thing as just a shag if you have feelings for him. He's not your best friend, besties don't do things that will knowing hurt their bestie. Find someone who deserves you and be happy. I'd drop the toaster. X

I'm not going to patronise you, you're a grown woman and perfectly in your rights to sleep with who you want, even if it's going down a dead end alley.

But honestly, just be careful to have adequate protection from stray toasters they are lethal.

He's giving you just enough of a hit to keep you addicted without actually committing to you. You deserve better from a friend or a partner. You will not be able to get past him to find a healthy relationship until you cut it off with him.

daisychain that made me laugh!

I went on another date this evening (online) which was nice. Not convinced I'm attracted but he was quite keen.

Just read this

I did not see that coming, literally dropped my phone (in bed, it's fine).

HE IS NOT A FRIEND.

HE IS A COMPLETE TOASTER

I feel like I need a toaster emoji

OP, are you the poster who had a thread about having feelings for your best friend recently?

shakespere yes I have posted about it before. Not for a while though. older I know! I'm an idiot. The ridiculous thing is that I'm still just incredibly relieved he isn't seeing this girl anymore and I won't be pushed out of his life. My head knows that's the wrong thing to think but I don't feel so constantly upset anymore.

Why are you letting him take the piss out of you op!

I genuinely don't know. I just have a weakness when it comes to him. I guess I feel a bit worthless at the moment

Someone said similar to me this weekend, so I'll pass it forward.

You are not worthless.

I remember your last thread. He's having his cake and eating it (daft saying!).

He's not treating you as a best friend would and from what you've said previously, he's obviously loving the thought of you having feelings and taking advantage of it for a quick shag - not very caring towards you.

Maybe some time out from your friendship might help? It will only hurt you being around him and he's in a great situation where he knows that if he's nice to you, he'll get laid.

You deserve better. As PP said, you are NOT worthless. Don't let this fuck boi make you feel like that.