Fiancée has been on adultwork

[Tinkerbell1989]

Hi everyone,
I have read a lot of similar posts on here and was hoping someone could offer some advice - especially from previous posters in a similar situation.

I have been with my partner for 8 years, the other weekend I was innocently going through emails looking for flights and came across some adult work purchases - I asked him about it. After along evening of tears and asking him to leave it turns out he was frequently asking to meet people (often 10 at a time). He said it was almost like his porn - he would send them out and get off to it when he got a reply. He also said he had been buying private gallery pictures. He agreed he thought had a problem and suggested he should go to counselling which is now booked and he is waiting to attend. He offered to get rid of anything I wanted him to - I explained this wouldn't make it better.
I'm now in limbo of seeing what I want to do- we are due to get married next year. I just feel so unsure and tbh it's really knocked my confidence! I have checked all our accounts and there has been no suspicious withdrawals or anything of that nature. Since this incident he has made an effort to reassure me etc but I've made it clear I am still not happy with the situation or sure about the relationship.

I think what I am asking for is just some perspective on the situation / experience of anyone who has been in this situation.

Thanks
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Dirty pervert. You don't want to be married to him do you??

Iwantmore123 reported. ZOMBIE Thread

Ohhhhh OF COURSE!!!! Iwantmore123 take heed, women! if your DH/DP is a sleazy, women buying cunt it's YOUR fault

Your a class act @Iwantmore123, jog on.

Good on you OP, from what I’ve seen here, if you had married and had kids you’d have been in here in a couple of years and trying to leave him.
You’ve saved yourself a lot of pain.

Ah shit zombied

Yes and the lovely thing about an internet forum is that you can tell goady fuckers to do one. Thank you so much for reanimating a zombie thread with your own sexual inadequacies. I'm sure we all feel enlightened as a result.

Hi wondering if anyone can help me or knows anything about this sort of thing.. basically I’ve just found my partner after 11 years on a site called AdultWork the page had timed out but was stuck on his inbox page where I seen various messages he had sent too different girls.. too one particular girl he has sent a message which said massage please then a bit further a message saying booking and then a couple more one requesting feedback.. I have obvs confronted him and after a while managed too get out of him he had just been looking and admitted too making a booking but couldn’t “actually” go through with it.. I don’t believe him of course and I’ve said how do you explain the message feedback I assume asking for feedback surely there must of been a service provided.. im so angry and distraught..I’m 5 months pregnant with our second child and I feel sick too my stomach I know for a fact he’s met up with this girl but have no way too prove it like I said too him why would there be this feedback message then and he just says he don’t know I’ve split up with him and will be going too the clinic too be checked out this week...

I don't get the buying pics thing. Is there not enough free porn out there? It sounds like he wanted more of a connection with these women. I mean they no doubt send the pics to thousands but maybe your partner likes feeling special, is deluded they have a connection? Either way it is really creepy to be requesting all this. I'd find it hard to trust him and would have to walk away

@MummyMarie1990

I suspect you're not a regular poster on here. I'd recommend starting your own thread with the text in your comment as this is quite an old thread and may not get lots of replies. I've seen various posts like this in the past so people who have been through this so will be able to advise particularly about gathering evidence. Just wanted you to get some good advice as this is an awful situation to be in