Just found out he's been fucking my best friend

[fellingdowntoday]

She won't reply to my messages he's gone and I'm raging

We aren't married.

When I was on a rampage last night I told him I was throwing it out of the window. I wasn't, I was however slightly pissed!

Yes I've spoken to her DH. He was aware of messages between them months ago. They promised it would stop and decided not to tell me.

And this is exactly why people should tell the OBS (other betrayed spouse). Affairs thrive in secrecy, but when the light is shone, it's not quite so enjoyable.

So many people thinks it's being vengeful. It's not at all.

It would have been courteous to let you know what was going on.

He's mortified, they have only been married a year.

How sad, that people like her don't take marriage seriously. Very sad indeed.

Good luck to your Ex, if he thinks it's going to be happy ever after, with a woman who was unfaithful to her DH so quickly into the marriage.

How are you today OP?

Definitely put all his stuff outside and tell him to take it to her place. I hope rain is forecast where you are!

Absolutely leave his stuff outside in bin bags.

Respond to communication from him in your own good time. Don't get involved in slanging matches and above all don't play the 'pick me' game with him. Accept his choice. You can sevretly wish for karma to catch up with him but don't let this consume you.

Sit back and see who your real friends are from your group. It will be nice to see who they really are.

Hope you are feeling better today OP?

If I were in your friendship group I'd be ditching this scummy pair, and sticking with you 100%. Can't bear this kind of thing. I bet your mates are disgusted.

I hope your DDs are ok. They'll get through it.