So this is the first I've posted on here, so apologies for my ramblings. My partner of one year (whom I see almost every day, good relationship with my 14 year old son) is a 'lone wolf' - likes time away on his own - all fine with me. Last weekend he was particularly vague about his plans,,had previously asked me to look after his dog whilst he went to Poland. All ok with that, I stayed at his house with my son, whilst doing jobs and bits for him there.
He was v vague about what he was up to, I did a terrible thing and looked at his iPad (something I'm not proud of), but there were photos uploaded on his phone from that day with two very young and beautiful women, and a letter that he had sent a couple of weeks ago where he was discussing how he couldn't wait to see them, he'd booked a hotel etc etc.
fast forward to Monday, I have told him I've seen photos and the letter. He thinks I'm over reacting. Am I? I think not. He has in the past had a terrible reputation for being unfaithful, but in the time together he has given me no reason to doubt his integrity, he asked advice from his brother who instantly said he had behaved terribly and that he should not expect to be forgiven, the ease in which he planned this without considering me, the meeting of the women (old,platonic friends he says).
Basically the last two days he has had lots of tears, he is genuinely an emotionally closed book, physically not warm nor affectionate (that is his nature), even his children say that about him.
I just don't know what to do, I love him so much, and we were really good (or so I thought)!and he maintains that we are, but how could he do this.
My close friends already think he is the typical alpha man,and has shown me no respect and need to dump him now. Any thoughts would be gratefully received, but thank you for reading this!