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WWYD re friend

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 13:41

My friend of 4 years recently cane over to mine for a drink and made a play for my boyfriend.

The three of us were having a drink and chatting. I'm not a drinker, had half a glass of wine. Friend on the other hand drinks a lot and was pissed.

I left the room for about twenty mins and when I came back in to the kitchen she said "another five mins and you would have caught us at it and I (she) would have been sliding up and down his cock".

She also asked him to go into the sitting room, he said no.

I know she finds him attractive.

I haven't really spoken to her since but this week she got some bad news and has reached out to me.

Would you just drop her or would you explain why?

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MusicToMyEars800 · 01/05/2017 14:23

I have been there with so many 'friends' always trying to cause shit, I've had ones that tried to steal my OH, fucked them all off me and OH have been together nearly 12 years now, if we kept these sorts of people in our lives I'm not sure we would still be together, so you're doing the right thing.

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 14:24

I doubt she'd be mortified as I believe she knew what she was doing. If anything was said to her I think she'd just blame the drink.

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 14:26

Music, what is wrong with these people!

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SaorAlbaGuBrath · 01/05/2017 14:28

One of the mums at nursery developed a "thing" for DP, it started with inappropriate comments in a "jokey" way and moved on to sexual innuendos which were way out of line. I finally lost my shit when she groped him and he was mortified and walked out. Told her she was bang out of order and if a dad did that to a mum in nursery they'd get fucking arrested!

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 14:31

Saor, that's terrible!! What did she say when you spoke to her?

In hindsight, I wished I'd pulled her up on it there and then but she was in bits, so drunk.

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MusicToMyEars800 · 01/05/2017 14:33

They're deranged I reckon, or bored with their own lives that they want to muscle in on other people's. Saor I would've lost my shit too, what is wrong with these women, she knew he was in a relationship with you yet, went ahead with her comments and groping Shock

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 14:36

I think she's so lonely/desperate she'd do anything!

The week before her fwb knocked her back when she asked him to make a go of it.

Since Jan she has taken two pregnancy tests for different men so she is in a bad place but not my fucking problem.

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Emmageddon · 01/05/2017 14:45

Tell her to piss off and sort herself out. She's not a friend, a friend wouldn't try to shag your husband.

MusicToMyEars800 · 01/05/2017 14:52

being lonely and desperate is no excuse for her acting like a common bike, and doesn't excuse her behaviour, no matter how desperate she is, if she valued you as a friend and your friendship together she wouldn't behave in any way like that! you are well rid.

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 14:52

Absolutely not Emma, with friends like that who needs enemies.

I'm getting the rage just talking about it again.

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Onemorewonthurt · 01/05/2017 14:58

She's a twat! Sliding up and down on his cock Shock wtf! I'd drop her without doubt, no explanation, you owe her nothing

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 15:01

She doesn't value herself never mind anything else.

My boyfriend and I were at a birthday party on Friday night and a similar thing happened with someone else. These people are fuckibg everywhere!

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 15:02

One more, when she said that about his cock she said and you were watching, you loved it didn't you.

I was stunned!

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Mermaidinthesea123 · 01/05/2017 15:03

God almighty get rid of her at once or otherwise that's what she will be doing.

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 15:04

I trust my boyfriend mermaid but I get what you are saying.

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MusicToMyEars800 · 01/05/2017 15:05

OP, they are, you soon start to be able to tell who they are upon first meeting them, I have become a good judge of character as is my OH, if he says steer clear of that person or they are not to be trusted, I listen because he is right pretty much all of the time, and vice versa, Unfortunately we can't have a repellent that keeps them away Grin

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 15:10

If only music!

I knew it myself that she couldn't be trusted but thought my boyfriend had put her in her place previously but she's mad about him.

Openly calls him a "ride"!

Nah, she actually deserves no explanation, think I'm just gonna drop her. Won't take her long to work out why.

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JK1773 · 01/05/2017 15:15

Yes the more you've said the more she doesn't deserve another chance. She sounds absolutely awful. I can't believe a friend would behave like that. I have a group of friends who can be very crude and blunt and I cringe sometimes but they would NEVER do or say anything like this. There's a big difference between humorous/ crude jokes and this frankly sinister treatment of you! Your poor OH. Bet he never wants to see her again, terrifying for him. Good job you have a strong trusting relationship

MusicToMyEars800 · 01/05/2017 15:17

Good, she needs to go and be with her own kind of people if you get what I mean, Maybe one day she will grow up and sort her life out and stop acting like a whore man eater, just out of curiosity how old is she?

crazymissdaisy · 01/05/2017 15:24

If you want to keep the friendship you have to explain how wildly inappropriate she has been. If you want to dump her it might be strangely satisfying to say why! Either way I would not personally want her to get away with it....

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MyheartbelongstoG · 01/05/2017 15:32

She is late thirties so knows better.

I don't want her to get away with it but I don't want to give her any more of my time or reasons/excuses to contact us.

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship and we trust one another so I have no doubts there at all.

I think she's jealous of what we have or rather of the boyfriend I have.

As soon as he saw the text about the recipe he showed me and said she has no reason to contact me, she should be asking you that.

Who text's someone else's boyfriend for a chicken drumstick recipe ffs. She could see and taste exactly what its made of.

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SaorAlbaGuBrath · 01/05/2017 15:34

MyheartbelongstoG she just kind of stuttered and tried to make excuses before I pointed out that she was bang out of order and to just stay away from me and my family in future. She has, thankfully. Especially since the nursery head saw what she did and hauled her into the office for a reminder of appropriate behaviour within a childcare setting!

Huskylover1 · 01/05/2017 15:37

So, what happened in the 20 minutes you were out of the room? Have you asked your bf, what she did and said in those 20 minutes? And what he said back?

But yeah, definitely drop. She 1000% would throw you under the bus, if it meant bagging your bf. She'll be telling him you've cheated next. She's dangerous. Get rid.

The text about the drumsticks was to engage him in a chat, that she would eventually attempt to turn flirtatious.

beachcomber243 · 01/05/2017 15:41

This woman is dangerous, your boyfriend is right. Drop her like a brick, no explanations and don't look back.
She sounds deranged.

JK1773 · 01/05/2017 15:46

I agree with Husky. She's definitely trying to engage him in text conversations that she would turn into inappropriate comments. Drop her like a stone. You should tell her why then both block her. She sounds dangerous