Female advice needed - affair

[Lostmymind01]

Yes I'm a guy and I'm having an affair with a work colleague. It's purely a sex thing which is supposed to happen only occasionally. However, it's happening more lately in more risky situations which is instigated by her. My problem is she's so up and down. She'll say we need to end it or cool it and then the next day we'll be having sex somewhere risky, and then its back to saying we need to stop. She feels guilty and I understand that, we are guarded with each other but it's obvious we have some feelings for each other, but we're not looking to leave partners. But what I don't understand is the up and down of it all and so I'm seeking a woman's perspective on this

You are just an idiot- so much you can not see - I wouldn't know where to start.

Reading your previous thread and seeing what you have said about your wife (especially the thought of losing her) I suggest you stop living in this bubble of risks, lust, sex and damaging both of your families lives (children included!!) and put a stop to this right now.

Your poor poor wife. Fuck your feelings of rejection when the OW gets cold feet. She's probably screwing the CEO too (from the description you gave of her in your previous thread)!

I can assure you that you will be in a far worse situation very soon, when your DW finds out!!

Good Luck. I look forward to her posts when it happens and when she's being gaslighted by you we can show her your needy OW posts!

A human's perspective on this is:

You are a weak person with no moral centre.

It's guys like you who make divorce lawyers happy. Just saying.

U r a effing pig op DONT cheat

I'd be careful op. Your affair partner sounds quite volatile and she'll probably tell your wife sooner or later.

You're a cock.
That is all.

Why the fuck did I click on this. I knew I shouldnt.

What a silly Billy you are.

Put your cock away dear. You are making a mess everywhere.

possibly? Xx

Oh FFS ... Really? Posting to ask how to conduct your affair better?

Just stop. The affair and the adsurb 'please help me manage my OW emotions better'.

Jesus Wept.

A human's perspective on this is:

You are a weak person with no moral centre

And also a selfish arse who doesn't deserve a long term relationship. Grow up.

You're a scumbag !

and you lot are all giving him what he wants by replying

Your username is very fitting OP

Is this one of those people who gets off on talking about their affair or just a wind-up merchant?

The push pull was explained to you last time.

It's a bit of guilt and the desire not to get emotionally connected.

I really thought you "got it" Lost and I'm sorry to see you back here.

You know exactly what I mean by that

MrsTerry

Either/both. I reported the thread but I suggest we don't feed it

For someone who is @NotYoda, you're remarkably Yoda-like

You've had all the advice you're going to get OP!

I suggest you come back with a new thread when your wife has found out. We'll coach you through the break-up then

Nobody cares....piss off dear

I suggest you come back with a new thread when your wife has found out. We'll coach you through the break-up then 

Fuck no, we'll be coaching his STBXW to get herself a SHL and fleece the bastard.

I'll spare you the lecture and offer genuine help.

She's up and down because she's clearly dealing with the conflict of what she wants in the moment and the fact she knows it's wrong and doesn't want to leave her partner.

It's not rocket science.
On affairs, I always think sometimes decent people can make really crap decisions.
Part of the fall out of making those poor decisions is dealing with the ups and downs of it. That's the price you pay for having cake and eating it.