I've dodged a bullet, right?

[roarityroar]

Went on two dates with man. V attractive, intelligent, similar interests. Teetotal because of former addiction issues, which I'm not, but ok.

Second date nice. He's funny. But he starts interrogating me. Asks me if I know of the Hare test (psychopath test) and quizzes me on my level of sociopathy. Otherwise fun. I agreed I might be about later tonight. Might.

Today comes. He calls. Messes around with times but that's fine, I'm laid back. I say look, tonight was never really great, can we rain check? He starts going mental over text. Leaves me a VM explaining the conversations we had in minute detail and why my actions are "not his standard".

I obviously say ok, that's how you feel. Them get a barrage about how yes I am indeed a psychopath and that's "gold dust" (he means hilariously funny).

Bullet dodged right? I had a weird feeling and actually, I'm glad and won't see him again.

"I'm amazed by the number of weirdo's lurking via OLD."

I'm not. Every weird and crappy bloke on the planet is going to be on there. Why wouldn't they be? It is the only way that some of them could ever "meet" a woman. Even if the OLD site is split 50/50 between decent blokes and weird blokes then the decent bloke might spend only 30 minutes per day looking at a small amount of matches (because he has a job and friends and hobbies) whereas weird guy will spend 14 hours looking at thousands of women, casting his net very wide.

Chances of being contacted by a decent bloke? Small. Chances of being contacted by weird crappy bloke? Oh, much much larger. They've put in the work you see.

@hmmokay
Yeah you're right makes perfect sense, I didn't think about it that way...

And that is approx same amount of effort I put in to searching, 30 mins every couple of days because I'm busy. durrr me lol.

I didn't mean to be rude to people who use OLD by the way.

Plenty of perfectly nice people on there, I'll bet. And they use it a bit every now and again. But the nature of OLD will always attract a certain type of person who perhaps doesn't have much else going on in their lives and will be totally over-invested in it.

Bit like mumsnet really.

This guy is a fucking LUNATIC.

BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK

NEVER see or speak to him again.

I once dated a guy who called me a narcissist on our second date. I was 44 and didn't even know what the term meant. I dated him for two godawful years - just horrendous - and then something made me go back and look up the term 'narcissist'. He ticked almost every single box. In a way it was a relief to know I wasn't going mad. I'm not saying that he was or wasn't one as I'm not a clinical psychologist, but he sure did have a log of those traits. If he's suggesting you're a sociopath, I'm guessing he's been diagnosed, or has identified that he may be one himself. In that case, you have dodged a bullet the size of France.

God I had a guy like this. He messaged me twice, I didn't reply quick enough the second time as was collecting a child from school and he lost it. Told me i was lying about being so long collecting my child then just flipped out massively.

@hmmokay

I'm not offended at all. I hope nobody else is?

The beauty of these blogs albeit anonymous, we need somebody to come along and be the voice of reason.

Thankyou