Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

I've dodged a bullet, right?

57 replies

roarityroar · 21/04/2017 19:58

Went on two dates with man. V attractive, intelligent, similar interests. Teetotal because of former addiction issues, which I'm not, but ok.

Second date nice. He's funny. But he starts interrogating me. Asks me if I know of the Hare test (psychopath test) and quizzes me on my level of sociopathy. Otherwise fun. I agreed I might be about later tonight. Might.

Today comes. He calls. Messes around with times but that's fine, I'm laid back. I say look, tonight was never really great, can we rain check? He starts going mental over text. Leaves me a VM explaining the conversations we had in minute detail and why my actions are "not his standard".

I obviously say ok, that's how you feel. Them get a barrage about how yes I am indeed a psychopath and that's "gold dust" (he means hilariously funny).

Bullet dodged right? I had a weird feeling and actually, I'm glad and won't see him again.

OP posts:
MyGastIsFlabbered · 21/04/2017 21:13

BLOCK, BLOCK, BLOCK

BURN YOUR HOUSE DOWN AND RUN FOR THE HILLS

memyselfandaye · 21/04/2017 21:15

Reply with this, "I know 17 ways to kill you and make it look like an accident, goodbye and don't contact me again".

usernumbernine · 21/04/2017 21:15

oh dear, block block block

Block that number pronto.

Original poster
roarityroar · 21/04/2017 21:48

His parting gift was "roarity, this time has been beautiful and you've made me realise that by not dealing with the pain from my mother I will only cause pain. I am saving your number because you have saved me and is my only hope"

Holy fucking Christ bollocks. What if I had been to his flat this evening?

I'm 32 and I am now too scared of online dating to try this again.

OP posts:
usernumbernine · 21/04/2017 21:50

You need to block his number.

He's coming across as mentally quite unwell.

PickAChew · 21/04/2017 21:51

Methinks the man doth project too much.

NorksAreMessy · 21/04/2017 21:51
Shock
PoorYorick · 21/04/2017 22:44

Ding dong, the nutjob is gone.

thequeenoftarts · 21/04/2017 23:13

Sorry but I am fucking pissing myself laughing........... He is great entertainment value, just not bf material, fecking looney lol

Ellisandra · 21/04/2017 23:27

He loves you enough to get therapy for you.

You should really give him a chance Grin

WorzelsCornyBrows · 21/04/2017 23:40

He seems to be mentally unstable. You've dodged more than a bullet, you've dodged a fucking grenade!

Shayelle · 22/04/2017 07:49

Very very scary. Please be careful of nutters everyone Confused x

Original poster
roarityroar · 22/04/2017 09:00

The texts at dawn happened!!!

OP posts:
usernumbernine · 22/04/2017 09:01

You're just enjoying the drama now. You should have blocked him already.

Mum4Fergus · 22/04/2017 09:04

You're the one who's looking crazy now...get him blocked and move on.

AlcoholAndIrony · 22/04/2017 09:07

You need to block his number.

I, similarly, had a guy text me at all hours and I was scared of him. I changed my number and that did the job.

Original poster
roarityroar · 22/04/2017 09:17

You're right. I am. I'm not responding but I am amused now.

OP posts:
Hissy · 22/04/2017 16:22

Come on, for the giggles, what did the texts say?

Underthemoonlight · 22/04/2017 16:28

Op there was a channel 4 or channel 5 documentary on murder online using OLD sites. Please be extra vilgant next time he sounds mentally unstable and your very lucky you didn't go to his flat.

Hissy · 22/04/2017 19:10

There was a The Detectives programme last night or the night before that focussed on a rape perpetrated by a guy who targeted his victims thru old. He raped and assaulted 2 women.

MichaelSheensNextDW · 22/04/2017 20:55

He's evidently extemely unwell and/or personality disordered. You could report him to the dating site if you wanted. Please have your wits about you in the early days of meeting strangers - giving out sensitive information about yourself like having had a termination is only for those who can be trusted.

DoIDontIhavethetalk · 22/04/2017 21:10

Christmas - that's really disturbing.

I had one like that who wanted me to be 'his girl' after talking online for one night. When I suggested that he was being rather premature he sent me a barrage of truly awful messages ending with 'women like you get what they deserve and I hope you get yours soon'. He was utterly terrifying.

Block him.

Trills · 22/04/2017 21:15

Bye Felipe

Talk to us instead. Don't talk to him.

NurseButtercup · 22/04/2017 21:43

If it's any consolation, I very recently had a weirdo old encounter that I posted on the dating thread. You're not alone and your fear is justified.

I'm amazed by the number of weirdo's lurking via OLD.

I convinced myself I must be on the "come over here I have zero weirdo radar" shelf but my good friend irl managed to talked me off that perch.

Not sure what my plan is, I don't want to be single this summer. And I need these cobwebs I've developed over last 2.5years sweeping out (but not via a casual fling). Maybe I'll try dating younger men Grin

pictish · 22/04/2017 21:48

I assume you have blocked him now. Nowt else you can do. He has issues and he's unstable.

Swipe left for the next trending thread