The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Swinging Into Sobriety!

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Hello there,

I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes travelling far and wide, stopping off here and there to collect lovely folk, just like you, for a natter all about booze and the blues that come with being a drinker of whatever quantity.

We don't wear or sell judgey pants here, although a G-string or two (Oooh Matron!) has been known to sort the fan belt out on the Bus as we've been driving for such a long time now!!

In short, we've regular posters here, lurkers, those who have managed to keep their drinking to 'social' occasions, some who are really struggling on an hourly basis and some who are completely dry!

Whatever your drinking 'status', you're welcome here in the new bigger Battle Bus, (as requested) whilst we head far and wide, listening to one another, as we face each day that comes our way, whether it be good, bad or downright ugly, we really have seen it all and don't mind one bit. Lurk or chat, it's up to you but one thing you will always find, is a warm welcome, Opal Fruit wrappers (Looks at Ma bosom push up! ) and of course, in complete confidentiality.

So, if you'd like to look what happened on the last thread (a bit like catch up TV) you can look at this link which will take you there - JUST HERE

And, if you would like to see where we started driving this wonderful Bus, over seven years ago, you can have a look at this very honest thread - RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon,

Mouse xx

I haven't got the money to do it unfortunately. Or another job lined up. So a pipe dream right now...but I'm getting to the point where I can't take much more.

I wish our merry band of travellers could all come together like the women in The First Wives Club. Start our own business/charity/multi branch centres of excellence and take over the world. Jolly japes along the way but ultimately supportive to each other and kickass to those who doubt our phenomenal strength.

One day mint x

My friend had just offered me some part time work. It's not a lot but but would cover essentials
I'm tempted!

How long would it be for mint....?

I'm up for world domination Dubh

Well, managed a brief walk at lunchtime, have eaten healthily and am AF tonight - miracles will never cease. Didn't do the workout but tried a few squats while cooking dinner. Fuck me, they hurt my knees! Does anyone else get this? What am I doing wrong? Only managed 10

Ma try kickbacks instead. I'm going to set myself up a little pilates routine as that's about all I can handle at the moment. Also, I'll walk more if the weather's nice. We just have to start small and build it up.

dementedma
MW and seasonal but would give me time to look around.
It's so tempting.

ma put all the weight in your heels. Literally pick you toes up with your heels still down to make sure that you are putting the weight in your heels. I will try to find a video for you - but it might not be til later. Alternatively, your knees are shagged

Hi everyone, hoping being af tonight is going to put me solidly on the busy for the week. I'm stressing about money so every time I think of drinking I'm going to remember this feeling of severe anxiety.
Work called and I'm back at the end of the month and I've got one client for cleaning so it's a start.

Elba I just read your post and I can completely relate, I've been struggling to leave the house again and I'm making a solid effort tomorrow to take baba for a walk. I push myself to do the school run but like you I have to properly build myself up to leaving the house for shops etc, think that's why my anxiety and OCD is playing up again. My oven is currently steeping in something that burned my skin just now.

Hope everyone else is ok. And yeah you really have to try irn bru to understand the taste

What are kick backs and will they tone up my flabby bahooky? I think my knees are probably fucked, to be honest.
Hey flowery!

Hey ma! How you getting on? I'd try Pilates if I were you, it helps prep your body for more exercise by strengthening. I have problems with my shoulders and it really has helped

Hi sorry I've been rubbish at posting lately. Been very busy so will post proper in the week when have time. Just posting to say I'm OK

Hello! I'm joining in if that's ok? I drink far too much and I want to stop, and this seems like the place to be

I've been drinking too much for the last 26 years (since I was 14) apart from when pregnant, so it's really going to be a battle! But if I can be sober when pregnant then of course I can be sober when I'm not right?

Hi all
I've been battling with alcohol for two years. Bottle of wine most nights and then start in spirits sometimes.
My children are now commenting and it's affecting my health I think.
I don't get hangovers which is a shame but I do get blank spots a lot now.
I'm ashamed. And I want to be sober.
No idea where to start.

Welcome 99 and whop
Having to post and run as need to go to work but well done on that first post. You've come to the right place. Someone should be along with breakfast soon - and if you're lucky!

Big welcome 99 and DooWhop well done for posting, there will be nothing you can say that we don't understand or feel/have felt ourselves.

Quiet here today, I am exhausted and very stressed, not sleeping and had a drink or two more than I'm comfortable last night, nothing compared to how it was but a little more than I planned. It's a good reminder to myself to keep aware. Been awake most of the night fretting, so will be having a very early night.

Hope everyone is well and I'll catch up properly when I'm a bit less frazzled.

Welcome 99 and Whop. Whop, I am ashamed too. I have to stop drinking.

Babes, I have a major problem. I was AF last week until Friday and then the wheels fell off in a major way. Can't remember anything of yesterday afternoon onwards and nearly threw up on the train on the way to work this morning. Every time I drink it gets harder and harder for me to stop, and I drink more and more. I hate myself and this ridiculous cycle I'm always on.

Today I was ready to stop. Forever. And then I remembered the wedding I'm going to next week - I have to drink at a wedding, right? And my cousin's visit at end of June - she'll be expecting me to drink with her. The truth is that I'm scared of who I am without booze. I'm scared I'll lose the few friends I have. I'm scared I won't be able to go out anymore.

I'm scared and tired and miserable and I know what I have to do and I can't bloody do it.

Thanks for driving slowly enough for me to jump back on when I fell off pretty spectacularly last week. It was my birthday and I was in a play last week..... I might have stayed my usual dry Mon-Thur, but it was one of those weeks where I said eff it by Tuesday.

I've paid for it though. I have no idea where my mobile is.

Margie32

NO you dont have to drink at a wedding. A friend of mine just managed a family gathering of mass proportion where she was surtounded by drinkers - she held resolutely to her new "diet" by saying she really doesnt need the extra calories at the moment. Of course family members tried to sabotage that by saying she was boring and that just one wont hurt but she held resolutely to her script and said she felt really empowered by the end of the evening when she saw how ridiculous these people were when drunk - she saud thet very quickly turned into bores oh and the following morning it was wonderful to not have a hangover.

So break the mold here and stict to a script of your own - drive if necessary so you have the perfect excuse and can slip away early by not being reliant on others to transport you.

Make a pact with yourself now - a private challenge as it were to get thru this celebtlration AF. Seriously after a while nobody woukd notice.

Be strong

Fecking typos slips awsy muttering to herself

margie32
I feel the same. I'm sick of being miserable and sick of being fed up, but do I do anything about it? No, I just drown myself in alcohol. Had a rare af yesterday but I couldn't think of anything but alcohol. I went to bed in an awful mood which carried through to today. So I have my wine for tonight bought at 10.30am and I'm still not happy. Time for a trip to the gp again..

With you Pedro. I. Have. To. Stop.

AYE, you talk a lot of sense. The person who puts most pressure on me to drink is me. I'm scared of not drinking. I'm scared of drinking. I don't understand how my life got like this.

I found the same, WhatToDo99. Without the pregnacy backup hormones having outrageous parties I have become a bit of an alcoholic dustbin. Also, DooWhop, I thought I didn't get hangovers until eventually in January I tried the Dry January and drank so much less than is my usual habit and felt soooo much better. If you don't need medical help to stop drinking, it really is a leap of faith. Luckily this bus has fantastic suspension as it's a bumpy ride, and luckily there are loads of sidecars so you don't have to fall by the wayside into a ditch. I have found it helps to have something to eat at wine o'clock. I find when ??????? I'm being sensible it fills a gap. I'm only on day 3 AF after a really boozy weekend. Day 4 will probably be ok, then day 5 I will start to creak and groan. If I can get beyond day 5 or even day 6, it will be a breakthrough!

Tiger you're right actually. I've had the most horrendous upset stomach all day after a heavy drinking weekend and when about 6 weeks ago I had a few days (!) sober I felt fantastic and slept so much better!
Feel very emotional as I had a gp consultation by phone earlier about it.
Liver function tests in the morning then seeing him Friday for advice and help. He says he is pretty sure I'm not dependent on alcohol but that it's a reaction to losing my dad a year or so ago. I started drinking like this when he was taken suddenly ill and carried on getting worse.