Let's hear it for the boy! (Man) lol

[MrsMammyM]

Just want to give a shout out to DH really haha feeling a bit soppy (pregnancy hormones) and very grateful and lucky!

He works 6 days a week for 10-12 hours a day, with only Sunday off and no paid holidays (his own business) and is tired and stressed emotionally and physically, he hates sticky mess and children's parties and soft play and all the other not so appealing sides of parenthood but is nothing short of amazing to me and our 2yo son! He completely takes over when he's home, the only 2 things that he doesn't do are cook (for good reason lol) and nappy change but other than that NOTHING is off limits. I came home late from the zoo last week to find he was home and had a very rare afternoon off work and how did he spend the chill hours he was blessed with while we were gone? He scrubbed and cleaned ours and DSs bedrooms and organised DSs wardrobe (a job I've been putting off for ages) and started to sort through all DSs old baby things for when DS2 arrives. He is DSs idol they are such best friends it's insanely cute. He is going through a really tough time with the business but you wouldn't know. I'm so tired from parenting DS1 and growing DS2 and never seem to stop wingeing 😂 He is amazing I could go on and on and on. We have ordinary ups and downs between us like normal couples but feel so appreciative of him especially after reading a lot of posts on here about DHs that are quite frankly selfish cavemen the way they describe them!

Don't actually want anything from this post other than to say how lucky I feel... me metophorically shouting from the rooftops ❤️

Where did you find him? Clone hmm and sell him on!! You'll make a fortune! 😂😍

But Naice how do you know that the OP is landed with the basic and dirty jobs in their household? You are just assuming that she is. In my household there are number of disgusting tasks which are shared out between my DH and myself. I could do any one of them. DH could do any one of them. But we tend to do to them according to our personal preference /aversions. I honestly don't understand what is wrong with that. If the baby needed changing and I wasn't around DH would have done it. If the bin needed taking out and DH isnt around

...I will do it. But we both would prefer not to. I don't get what is the problem with that arrangement?

I don't know why there are any nasty responses to this at all. OP, I'm happy that you have a lovely husband and that you appreciate the things he does. Be sure to tell him often

OMG funniest thread!!! Can't believe that people can read a positive happy post and still find a way to tear strips off it. Who gives a shit if he doesn't change the nappies!!!! Divorce him, immediately!

So nice to hear about a happy relationship, go you OP :-) xxx

Also it's good for some women on here to hear there are good men out there, it might be what they need to get out of a bad relationship!

Wow some awful responses here, just ignore. That's so lovely to hear OP, sounds like you've found yourself a keeper! :)

It's all about working as a team so if you're better at doing the cooking & nappies I'm sure there are other jobs he's better at that he picks up.

Naice has a point - & women are not inherently better at less desirable tasks (but they achieve proficiency by repetition!)
As has the poster who said she had a husband like this once & now going through a divorce...
Its not so much that the OP is inane & vacuous... but that the followup 'Lol' is somewhat offensive... Surely this is a windup as OP not been back since?

I think it's definitely a wind up.
Although i think posters who suggest it's heartwarming or inspirational might be genuine.

This thread is a brilliant example of why people shouldn't spend too much time on MN. It skews your perception of reality and brings out the bitchiness of so many people. In real life someone might easily start a conversation, saying 'ooh - guess what DH did yesterday afternoon', and people would say how lovely that was. On MN they pick up on a detail and rip the DH / OP to shreds.

The point is that the nappy thing isn't really a "detail". Men are still lauded to the skies for behaving like reasonably responsible adults and women are still expected to do the grunt work with the dc and housework that some men think is beneath them.

Note that I say some men. Most men understand this.

Sharing jobs - great. Women accepting that they always pick up the slack because their men are not very keen on the less pleasant household/childcare jobs - not so great.

Naice, you've clearly got an issue with this. The poster you've set upon has explained how they arranged things between them, yet you still can't accept that people and their relationships differ.

OP's clearly just bubbling over with affection for her DH and wanted everyone to know. I'm sure she didn't mean to sneer at people whose partners are not as supportive. Otherwise nobody would ever tell anyone else anything positive, would they? I baked a lovely cake, "oh now you're looking down on people who aren't so good at baking/whose ovens are crap". I've just had a promotion at work, "so you think you're much better than all of us slogging along every day absolutely dying for a pay rise". I've had the all-clear from the clinic, "well my mother didn't and she DIED. I hope you feel really shitty now". I'm a bit of a gloomy sod myself at times but relentless negativity is a bit wearing, to say the least. Try and be happy for others once in a while, why don't you? And yes, it is a good message that this is what partners and fathers-to-be should behave like, mucking in (and mucking out!) despite long working hours. Don't settle for less.

Yes, I've got an issue with people in 2017 not expecting men to do the same amount of low value, dirty work with house and children as women. As I've said several times, I have no issue with couples splitting jobs however they like, so long as women don't take on the grunt work and let men say "they are not very keen" on the less pleasant stuff.

I have no issues with the op. I'm really astonished that I even have to say these things about housework and children on here.

OP , I for one am glad you're happy and content. Fuck anyone who tries to ruin your moment of gratitude for that contentment for you by bitching about it. Envy can make people very unpleasant.

I understand where you're coming from and it is nice to see that positivity. I for one think it's a good way of saying to people on here that this is how a relationship should feel and be and if it doesn't feel right despite how normal it feels or you think it feels I deserve better.

Nice to hear that some relationships are lovely and happy.
I'm not sure if mine ever will be (it's just OK I guess) but I don't expect to ever leave as it's just not something I would be capable of doing.
It is nice read about the good ones though as maybe it will help me see the positive in mine.