Let's hear it for the boy! (Man) lol

[MrsMammyM]

Just want to give a shout out to DH really haha feeling a bit soppy (pregnancy hormones) and very grateful and lucky!

He works 6 days a week for 10-12 hours a day, with only Sunday off and no paid holidays (his own business) and is tired and stressed emotionally and physically, he hates sticky mess and children's parties and soft play and all the other not so appealing sides of parenthood but is nothing short of amazing to me and our 2yo son! He completely takes over when he's home, the only 2 things that he doesn't do are cook (for good reason lol) and nappy change but other than that NOTHING is off limits. I came home late from the zoo last week to find he was home and had a very rare afternoon off work and how did he spend the chill hours he was blessed with while we were gone? He scrubbed and cleaned ours and DSs bedrooms and organised DSs wardrobe (a job I've been putting off for ages) and started to sort through all DSs old baby things for when DS2 arrives. He is DSs idol they are such best friends it's insanely cute. He is going through a really tough time with the business but you wouldn't know. I'm so tired from parenting DS1 and growing DS2 and never seem to stop wingeing 😂 He is amazing I could go on and on and on. We have ordinary ups and downs between us like normal couples but feel so appreciative of him especially after reading a lot of posts on here about DHs that are quite frankly selfish cavemen the way they describe them!

Don't actually want anything from this post other than to say how lucky I feel... me metophorically shouting from the rooftops ❤️

I'm happy for you, op - but any reason why he gets to decide that he doesn't do the (literally) shitty jobs? I would have preferred not to change nappies either - as would 99% of the population I imagine - but unfortunately someone has to do it!

Naiceham
Maybe there are jobs op hates doing that her dp doesnt mind.
Dh hated nappies, but i am emetaphobic. Dh had no problem clearing up sick and he worked long hours so wasnt around for most of nappies anyway. I was more than happy with that.

So Refreshing to hear from someone who has a good un.

(He doesn't change nappies though!? LTB )

I understand that people are happy to share jobs bruffin, and if it was a case of one person bathing the dc and one person dressing them (or similar) then fine. I have a problem,though, with one person not doing the really shitty low value jobs as if it is beneath them, and leaving them to their partner. Usually the woman

Clearing up sick - great, but how often is that necessary? Once every few months at the absolute most.
Changing nappies - several times a day, every day, for years!

I'm sure my DH would rather not change nappies but he's a parent so doesn't have a choice

He sounds lovely op, and I still love hearing happy stories despite going through a devastating divorce at the moment.

But I can see why some might see your post as insensitive and you should also remember that people change; I had a dh like your's once.

Glad to hear your're happy OP but this comes across as ... a bit like shouting how wealthy you are to the poor people. Out of context it's fine but I think on this occasion it's just not fitting, you seem to be gloating ...also He's not that great if he won't do nappies

Dh has been a parent for 21 years he does his fare share, for the last few years he has been taxicab, cos i dont drive. He has done his fare share for those 21 years, he just didnt do nappies very often.

So he did his fair share of jobs just not the dirty smelly ones, because for some reason they were beneath him but not beneath you?

Feck. Drink. Nappies.

Dont be so ignorant Naiceham.
How on earth do you know what jobs he did.
I said before he would clear up sick, just couldnt stomach a dirty nappy. He did plenty of messy jobs, just not nappies 20 years ago.

What a tedious OP. No one who is actually secure shouts it from the rooftops and lols at those who are struggling.

But anyway, re the nappy thing, i hate cleaning the toilet. I might consider that a fair swap. Especially as OP will have a family with 2 DSs who will piss on and around it for some years. Or is that just my darling sons?

Why do you value yourself so low and have so little self-respect bruffin? I too had children 20 years ago - and my husband was able to change dirty nappies without leaving it all to me.
Do you think that somehow changing nappies is beneath a man?

Oh, everyone is so miserable! Op, it's always nice to hear that someone's life is going well - and also that recognise and appreciate your great relationship. It's possible to get a skewed view of life and relationships when you spend time on here so I like to hear something that balances it out

I expect my dh probably found it difficult to stomach dirty nappies as well at times, but somehow he was able to battle through. Being an adult. And not expecting a woman to do the skivvying.

That's lovely OP, cook him a nice meal or something as a little thank you and congratulations on you 2nd pregnancy

Really naiceham, i have plenty of self respect. I dont need a stranger on the internet analysing my marriage and my dh on one sentence.

You are so right Piratesandpants

With the best will in the world, then bruffin, I suggest that you don't discuss your husband or marriage on an open online forum because people will comment if they disagree about something.

Oh my god. Wtf is wrong with people??
Op good dor you. You have a lovely DH. It's nice to hear about happy marriages for a change!
As for the rest of you: why do you care if her DH doesn't change shitty nappies? Maybe he cleans out the cat litter? Maybe he scrubs the loo? What is it to you? What made you be the judge as to whether or not her DH thoughtit was "beneath" him th change nappiea?? I'm a nurse. I am used to shit. I hate bin juice however. It makes me feel quite sick. So if I change nappies in my houseand DH takes out the bin bags and cleans the kitchen bin for me that is a great compromise. Are you all judging me now?? Are you going to tell me how cleaning the bins is beneath me?? Mumsnet had gone pathetic these days.

I enjoyed reading OP. Pleased you are happy and sad you've had so many negative responses.

No, it's not pathetic just for women not to want be left with the basic and dirty jobs in the house and with the dc that men don't want to do.

If you are happy with your situation then fine, but I will comment on situations where women still feel that it's ok for them to be left with the crappy jobs that are somehow "beneath" their husbands.

I think it's really sad, actually, that this still needs to be said.

Totally agree Naice. Expectations are so bloody low. If they're not hitting you and remember their kids' names, they're great dads