When is a good time to broach *the future* with my partner?

[KatDubs261]

I'm 25, 26 this year, and have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. Things are going wonderfully and for the moment I'm happy building memories together.

My boyfriend recently took me to his friend's wedding and began asking me what I thought about rings etc. At one point during the ceremony I could barely tear him away from a newborn baby. And to think women are meant to be the broody ones!

But last night he made some comments that concerned me. He joked about not being a fan of babies/children (news to me as he seems to adore his niece & nephew). I asked him about it and he just said he doesn't want them right now. When I asked if he is planning on being an older father, he said he didn't know - 'maybe', as his parents had him late in life (his mother was in her 40s) and his brother is having a kid in his 40s. He asked me the same question and I told him I wouldn't wait because my aunt (who I am very like genetically) started trying at 38 and couldn't have them. He just listened and said 'to be honest it's just not something I've thought about.'

I suppose in my mind I'd like to start trying by 30/31 and fear the thought of building a life with someone that doesn't want the same things. He wants to have more adventures and not give up his independence, nor do I yet. I want to keep enjoying our time together for now but I also don't want to find out in 2 years that we want different things. Any advice?

He sound to me as of he freaked himself out a bit by his depth of feeling over the baby and the wedding, so is back peddling.
i t sounds to me like he is invested in your future, but need space and time to grow into that.
Have some trust, it's very early days yet. Don't push, let it develop, and ask these questions in a year or two. But the signs are good, and the " I hadn't thought about it " is a smoke screen.

He has definitely had some thoughts about it and TBH he hasn't said no just there is stuff he wants to do without being tied down. Fair enough.
I think you are just as entitled to want children at 30 too.
I would wait till you've been dating a year and bring it up properly if are still together.I wouldn't move in with him. Not until he at least says yes to marriage and children and preferably solid plans in place for both.
So many of my friends are waiting in the holding pattern of wanting to be married but live men that won't. Most in their 40's now with partners for at least five years. Then what do you do? Seems ridiculous to break up a house and children over a ring but I know my friends are annoyed that they won't be wives.

and for the moment I'm happy building memories together

??? WTAF?!?

Try just being happy having a nice time in the present. Only an absolute loser would be 25 years old and talking about "building memories together". Jesus.

I'd wait a while as it's quite early and you are quite young but when you do discuss it in a year or so make it clear that you want to try for a family late 20s/early 30s. And whatever you do dont hang around past that date if there's no sign of progress.