Deep down I know IWNBU but I feel shit nonetheless and guilty.
Background: H left me after I discovered EA with work colleague. I was willing to try work through it but he didn't want to. I was the main earner. We jointly owned a house. H moved into the spare room, he did not want to move out. EA with OW continued. After a month or so he refused to pay towards mortgage, bills etc. and basically wanted to just live there whilst applying for higher paying jobs. I found the separation very hard to cope with mentally and also did not see why I should pay for him. We argued a lot, it was horrible. Eventually, he moved out and I have now bought him out of the house. There wasn't much in terms of equity but a low five figure sum has changed hands. It's all with my solicitor.
All of this was 8 months ago. I am still working very hard on getting over things. As far as I know he is still working in his old job and rents a bed sit in the neighbouring town. I am aware that his income is low but he has got the house money.
I met with a 'friend' the other day (also very close friend of h) who suddenly verbally attacked me about how I could have been so heattless, how h has to live so frugally now. He can't afford much, can't access benefits, and if I had just let him live with me a little longer, he would not suffer as much. I should have taken the high ground and be an adult and let him live with me.
My head is all over the place and I don't know whether she has a point or not? I guess I am looking for perspective, I don't mind btw being told that I was unfair in how I handled things. I must don't know anymore.