Can somebody help me. Possessive ex with dd

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I'm sat in tears because I feel like he is going to take my daughter away from me.

He sees dd5 3 days a week including having her overnight twice but always tells me he doesn't have her enough.

He has booked tickets for a film with her early afternoon next week because as he normally picks her up from school that day, he assumed he would collect her from my house the same time. I previously told him that I would be off work that day and would have appreciated a having her til something like 5pm.

He wants her for the majority of the week after and is taking her all over the place, leaving me with a couple of days with her. He was telling me this on my doorstep and to make it worse dd is repeating "I want to stay with daddy". He is always very smug about this. I asked him why he is happy taking my time with her away, he says he never gets enough. I told him I feel like I don't see her enough either but that we are supposed to discuss arrangements, not book tickets first and explain later

Normally you hear about exes not seeing the kids enough but he wants to just always have her and showers her with toys/clothes/trips out.

We split because he was a liar and a cheat, he is still with OW. He made me feel worthless, and continues to. Now, my own dd makes me feel like I'm just not good enough.

What the hell do I do, its like he is taking over my life.

sammy it wouldn't be a problem if he was doing out of love.
He's doing it out of spite and is using it as a means of continuing controlling OP.

Couldn't thats what I've had trouble with. He tells me he loves and cares, but his actions and the way he speaks to me just proves otherwise. I've never felt genuine love and care from him, it saddens me to say - I wasnt a wise girl when we first got together.
Thanks again for all responses, I no longer feel desperate.

He isn't interested in reasonable, he's interested in 'winning' and winning is about being in control. This is why you need a Parenting Plan which details when, why and how. Not having a fixed contact schedule gives him an 'in' and that's the last thing you let a bully have. Parenting Plans can be as detailed as you like but mine was a Parallel Parenting Plan, which is aimed at high conflict parents. I even included a contact protocol which detailed how, when and why we would communicate. A Parallel Parenting Plan is fairly rigid because the goal is to lesson the communication needed by trying to make as many agreements in advance, which in turn reduces the possibility of conflict later.

One of the most valuable things I did when dealing with my Ex was to detach. It wasn't easy because that's the opposite of what he wanted but it gave me space , which was a much needed buffer against his crap.

Let your solicitor handle the communication and when he tries to circumnavigate them, become a broken record, repeatedly telling him to contact them.

Your Ex isn't special, he's just a bully.