Married man interested in me?!

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I know the title sounds bad.. I am in a relationship and have been for two years and living together.
Over the last 8 months their has been this guy at work and i get the feeling he is interested in me. We speak and say hello every day etc at the start he used to seem very nervous around me he would stammer when we had conversations and if we bumped into each other unexpectadley he would go all red and flushed. He always gives me this stare when he walks past which is quite sexy and makes me think he is attractive when he does this! he doesnt seem to treat any other women at work like this and doesnt seem to notice women as much as he notices me. I was collecting for charity and people at work were giving say £4 each he put £15! It has been going on for some months now and i feel their is A LOT of sexual tension between us. When my partner meets me from work the guy seems to get jelous and moody with me the next day which makes me feel kind of strange as i cant tell what he feels. He makes comments to colleagues in front of me like 'i am so tired i need to get a bed in my office and tell the wife im working late to get some sleep' it all just feels very strange i cant work him out! Am i imagining things or does this guy like me. I am starting to develop feelings for him because of how he makes me feel. I would never go their obviously but all the tension is bugging me and i hate that i dont know what he is thinking! He is married and has been for over 10 years with two children and seems happy with that he always speaks happily about them. I am 24 and he is 32.
I know it is probably just harmless flirting that is making him feel good but its been going on for ages and just wont stop i really do not want to develop strong feelings for him but i cant seem to help it cause of how he is with me.
What should i do?

Jesus wept. Maybe he's being nice, maybe he's a flirt but for god sake he's married and you're with someone. Be pleasant but no more than that. MN is a good place to be as it might teach you a little about men and relationships.

Of course married people feel attracted to other people...it's only the dicks that act on it.

He is a dick, he's playing with you and you sound as if you are putty in his hands.

Grow up, be professional.

Urgh. You sound tragically excited and clearly are just looking for a way you can talk about him and he sounds like a creep. Happy days all round.

Well that's told her!

She won't be back now. Think she came on here to justify herself...not sure why....

Why is he doing it?! I'd say, either he has no intention of cheating on his wife but enjoys flirting with a younger women who seems keen on him for the ego boost, or he's looking for bit on the side. And when people cheat everyone involves gets hurt. Everyone.

It may feel all thrilling and exciting to you but honestly, it sounds completely seedy and sordid to everyone else. Knock it on the head before it goes any further, for everyone's sake.

but what im confused about is why he is trying to make me attracted to him by doing these things? Or is he just being nice and im taking it the wrong way?

People have explained to you why he is doing this.

He is NOT being nice, he just wants some sex on the side and then he will suddenly stop being nice and might even badmouth you around the workplace.

You need to be civil to him but no more than that. Please don't get drawn into an affair, it won't end well for you, and don't give other colleagues the impression that you are attracted or the gossip mill will start (if it hasn't already).

He's probably already tried with the other women in the office and they weren't receptive.

He's a dick. If you respond to his flirting then you are a dick too.

Like many I've worked with people like him.
Another harsh comment but, get your head out of the clouds, stop behaving like a twat and grow up. Be professional in your work and ignore his stupid glances. Go and concentrate on your own relationship......but you're not going to do that are you. You are both as bad as each other

First rule of work, is don't screw the payroll.

You're given him an ego boost & he'd probably sleep with you, if you asked but, it's no more than sex. Walk away. He's a cock

Not to worry Op. Once he's shagged you (and he will) he will most likely blank you at work as he's not remotely interested in you. He is interested in having you spread your legs but that's it. But you carry on with your silly fantasies about how you are so so gorgeous and not like other women and he can't keep his eyes off you ect.
I expect you are really annoyed with the condemnation you are receiving but at 24 you are far too old to behaving so stupidly.

It's cos you're so sexy he can't help himself and neither of you have any control and it will be all rainbows and flowers and red hot sex

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You should put a photocopy of your bum on his desk and arrange a 1:1 with him while dressed in red lingerie. You should also get sex toys sent to his home address and leave lipstick marks on his collar.

Dear God OP, are you for real?

Why is he doing this?

So you'll blow him in his car while he texts his wife to say he's working late

This^

She won't be back now. Think she came on here to justify herself...not sure why

No, I think she came on hoping people would tell her he actually fancied her. But agree she won't come back as she didn't get that validation.

Do not get involved with a married man he just wants to get in your knickers and shag you. If his wife finds out she'll scratch your eyes out which is what a bit on the side deserves.

Where have you gone, op ? Back under that rock ?

I think we've seen the last of her/him