First date

[Tiredbutnotyetretired]

So last night i met the man who has been persistant in getting my number and has told anyone who will listen how much he likes me.
We met last year but ive been in and out of an extremely psycologically abusive relationship where i was gaslighted, put down, taken for granted, used and triangulated with just about any woman on this planet.
I have a strong support group of a few friends and family i can talk to so this had helped me just about keep my head above water and stay sane. Anyway we broke up a few days ago and (i know this may sound terrible) i contacted this man whom ive been keeping at arms length because i didnt want to lead him on or cause myself any confusion. I contacted him just to chat to take my mind off the pain of all the shit i'd been through and the imminent anxiety attacks, and tbh i really do quite like him so thought it would b harmless chatting and easy banter which it always is whenever i have spoken to him.
I was shocked to realize just how pushy he would be and he has talked me into a date, which my friends have encouraged so i thought great just relax , get to know the guy and see how the night goes.
He didnt actually invite me on a propper date just invite round to his house which was fine with me as i liked the idea of just relaxing together getting to know each other a bit by talking etc.
He was very attentive and kind and i fancy the pants off him so it was lovely conpany but a few things have concerned me nut i dont know if its a genuine red flag or my own mind because of all the previous abuse?
Firstly he was commenting on people on the tv (how pretty/ugly they were) i didnt like it at all and found it superficial and not things you would say when you first meet someone new? The next thing that concerned me was that he made a sweeping statement that he was a 'boob' man, which i also found unnecessary on a first 'date' and indicated to me that he seems superficial and cant see past peoples looks, can i also add that i do not have large breasts and they are a little deflated from childbirth.
Am i worrying too much? Am i looking for abusive traits? Were there red flags to be seen? Please give me your opinion because im so worried about ending up in another situation like last time.
I really dont want to rush into anything too soon and i thought maybe slowly get to know each other but he was also quite pushy sexually asking for sex etc which i told him no.

[JK1773]

Oh gosh he sounds awful for one, and two you are far from ready. It's too soon for you and you're emotionally still raw. This is the time you are at your most vulnerable. Take some time out and look after yourself. You don't need to rush headlong into another relationship. And even if you did this man is not the right one by any stretch. He sounds manipulative

[Shayelle]

Eurgh i think id have thrown up there and then. What a fucking creep!