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When/Where/How did you meet DP/DH?

62 replies

Earlybird · 04/07/2004 00:33

I'm curious to know how people met their DP or DH. I'm a single mum who wants to get "back on the pitch", but don't know where to begin. I've been single for 6 years, and want to meet someone, but don't know where to begin.

Most friends are married, and seem to have no suitable/available men to introduce me to. Can't imagine myself sitting at a pub waiting to meet someone, joining a dating agency, or doing a lonely hearts classified ad. I've done an evening class, but there was no time for socialising during, and everyone seemed to run out the door for home straight after. So, I'm at a bit of a loss. I know I need to do something to make myself more available, as it is clear that Mr. Wonderful isn't going to knock on my front door......Would love to hear how others met - both conventional and unconventional! It might provide me with some inspiration, or at the very least, some good ideas.

OP posts:
katierocket · 04/07/2004 11:08

paintballing...

Fairyfly · 04/07/2004 11:10

In a sewer

Pagan · 04/07/2004 11:11

In a pub! It was a complete fluke and I'd only just started feeling good about being single after a disastrous relationship. Certainly wasn't on the look out but it was love at first sight.

Just so happened that my pals had organised a girlie weekend in a wee village that had a sailing regatta on the same weekend. Men outnumbered women at about 20:1 so it was rich pickings. I suppose with a bit of research you could find out when certain male dominated events are on and head there.

I also tried an on-line dating thing and had a very nice date unfortunately at the same time as another relationship was taking off (see previous disastrous one mentioned) - more fool me.
Only other thing I could add was I used to go to a boxercise class at my local municipal sports hall. It was mixed and very social. Could try the same.

wobblyknicks · 04/07/2004 11:14

In college - and god I wish I'd left him there!!!

Fairyfly · 04/07/2004 11:19

I was just thinking of places full of men and could only come up with prison, you could be a volunteer visitor? I'd stick to a sailing regatta though, that sounds ideal.

Hulababy · 04/07/2004 11:25

Met DH at sixth form at school, aged 16. He was seeing my best friend at the time but it was going no where. I flirted around with one of his mates too. But they all fizzled out and we got together not long after - next day. LOL!!!

Been together ever since with no break ups, despite having been to separate universities for 4/5 years.

We have now been together for 14 years, got marrued nearly 5 years ago and have one DD, aged 2.

Poppy1978 · 04/07/2004 11:33

I meant mine on WAP!! We didn't exchange photos, but set up a 'blind' date for Valentines. Was so romantic the biggest bunch of roses arrived in the morning, then DP turned up late afternoon.

It was a bit of a shock, cos I'm white and he sort of 'forgot' to tell me he was Indian!! Poor boy was so scared what was going to happen when he turned up!

But it all worked out, been together 18 months and on Sat I'm moving to Croydon to live nearer him and have a fresh start.

misdee · 04/07/2004 11:49

at work. mieow introduced us. apparently he went to the same school as me, but i dont remember him but know his best mate. my best friend from school was going out with his brother at the same time. very weird.

Piffleoffagus · 04/07/2004 11:52

internet ish..
I met a cracking lass over the net who was moving from the US (she was RAF) back to my village, we got to be really good mates and our kids really close friends too.
I was single, one day she went away to London to another internet party (she was very keen, I was a bit more reserved about net meet ups)
She met my dp at that party, and then remembered him one day when I said I wanted to get married and have more kids (rather than play the field as I had been)
I texted the number she gave me, that was it
click clickety click!!!
He was working in Brussels for the next year but came to see me every weekend.
He is lovely I adore him to bits!

lou33 · 04/07/2004 11:55

At a dubious party.

Bigmerlin · 04/07/2004 12:17

At school! Started going out with him when both aged 14, got married 12 years later to the day!

Galaxy · 04/07/2004 12:17

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Ixel · 04/07/2004 12:37

At work. But it was a secret for 2 years, by his choice! Prob because I'd already been 'associated' with his boss and two colleagues! A friend of mine has just found herself single again, and has been speed dating, which she highly recommends. If it was me looking, i'd hang out at tattoo parlours, canvass my friends to see who they knew that could be suitable, loiter in the garage at the bottom of our road a bit more that I do now, go to football and dog racing with our ex-lodger. I also know a couple married after internet chats, so dont knock that either!!

Fio2 · 04/07/2004 12:40

In a seedy nighclub where your shoes stick to the floor

CountessDracula · 04/07/2004 12:53

I met dh through my first boyfriend (who I went out with when I was 15 and then stayed good friends with) - he met my dh at university, he then moved to New York and I got together with my dh at his leaving do.

I actually first met him in his living room in a grotty flat in Shepherd's Bush - I was watching the footie with my ex-bf and getting pissed!

Bron · 04/07/2004 12:59

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susanmt · 04/07/2004 14:57

I met my dh in his fresher's week at uni (I was 2nd yr). I was talking to my x in a group outside the halls at uni and he asked me my room number - when I told him a rather nice Irish voice piped up 'thats my number in this house' - our room were exactly opposite and we looked into each other's windows!
Became good friends pretty much at once and started going out 6 months later in April 1990 (I was just 19, it was a week after his 20th birthday), got married in 1994. Ten years this year!!

JanZ · 04/07/2004 15:18

Met dh in Miami at Junior Chamber World Congress.

Although I was a mmemver of Junior Chamber Beverley, I had met some of the Glaswegians at European Congress and had got on with them. They were bidding to hold World Congree in Glasgow in (I think) 1995, so they suggested I join Glasgow Junior Chamber (cost: £60) and then get a £300 subsidy to go to Miami for a week, as part of the bid delegation. I'm enough of a Scot to like those sums!

Anyway, ds was also part of the Glasgow delegation, but we didn't really meet until near the end of the week when he was with another couple of girls who shouted up to me, who was standing on my room's balcony working out what to do, as it was too late to go to any of the training sessions that morning, to come down and have breakfast with them. His recollection of that moment was "What do we want HER to come with us for? She's a snob". He SAYS he hasn't changed his view

We REALLY got talking on the plane on the way back and talked through the night over the Atlantic.

That was in November 1992. He was actually married at the time, and althigh the attraction was there, we didn't do anything about it until he split up (he actually had a very sohrt fling with someone else in between times).

We got together in February 1993, had a long distance relationship for a year and then I moved back to Glasgow in 1994. We got married in 1998.

lou33 · 04/07/2004 15:20

I love those sort of places Fio

slug · 04/07/2004 17:03

Oh how boring, but I met dh in a pub. I was out with a friend on a 'getting drunk and leering at men' evening to celebrate her 30th birthday. I spotted dh, and, despite being in an on off relationship already, drunkenly thrust my cleavage in his face. I knew he was the one for me when he manfully managed to have a conversation with my face, only staring at my boobs when he thought I wasn't looking

Flip · 04/07/2004 17:22

I met my dh at college. We had fundraiser for children in need in the November and terrorised everyone in Wigan to part with their cash as we stomped through in fancy dress. I became friends with a whole group of guys and dh was one of them. We chatted over "talk" on an old UNIX system at college making jokes about how we could get together at Christmas. I ended up snogging him at the Christmas outing and then ditched him in the January when he hadn't made an definite moves (I sound like tart!) .

We then becamse the best of friends and would spend ages chatting on the phone and every minute at college together. I worked my way through all of his friends trying them out and ditched every one pretty much straight away. Then we decided to go camping for my eighteenth. So me, dh and another lad all went off to Hawkshead in the lake district for the weekend. Spent most/all of it pissed and dh and I finally got our act together. It was amazing and we've been together ever since. Married almost six years ago and have two kids. Unfortunatley we're no longer in touch with any of our clan from college.

bundle · 04/07/2004 17:24

before we had internet access at work I met dh through a computer messaging system...the 2 offices we worked in merged..and so did we..ahhhhh. that was about 10 years ago(not v good on dates n stuff)

marialuisa · 04/07/2004 19:54

Introduced at a staff/student pi** up by my personal tutor (he and DH were sharing a house).

Ex-tutor is now DD's godfather!

Bagpuss30 · 04/07/2004 19:57

On a blind date. His best friend was seeing my best friend. It was my graduation ball and best friend brought him along for me! We have been together ever since (for nine years nearly).

acnebride · 04/07/2004 20:05

when i was younger i went out with all my sports coaches - authority figures . Sports are a good way to meet guys imo - running is not a bad one to fit round kids if you can track any bsitting at all down. met both husbands thru singles ads but the second one was via a dinner party org by friends to which we all invited internet dating contacts. sports are better i think!