AIBU to expect my family to not contact my ex?

[gomezabc]

Currently going through the tail end of a divorce, during which my ex has restricted my access to my children, been extremely inflexible on child care arrangements when they are in place, and has dragged the finances out far longer than necessary and been very vindictive in that regard.

I used to get on with my ex's family really well, however since the split NC from them (to be expected I guess - I walked out). But my family are still in contact with my ex on FB, messaging etc. AIBU to expect that they shouldn't be, that they should understand the hell I'm being put through?

[Mamagin]

xStefx, where does it say that the OP is a man?
Agree with everyone saying that contact needs to be kept up for the children, and that you don't just drop somebody because their marriage ends.

[xStefx]

Mamagin it doesn't but the " feeling sorry for myself " post and the username made me think it is. I could be wrong though :-)

[Isadora2007]

I was really hurt that my ex in laws basically cut me off after exH and I separated. I am the RP and it was tough going being a single mum. It upset me that that the one night a fortnight my ex had them was when they'd see their grandparents as well because I could have done with the support or the "time off" at other points during the month if they had contacted me or answered me when I offered them time with their GP.

I didn't end the marriage their son did. So I don't see why I became public enemy number 1... but I did.

Now the kids have very little relationship with either their dad nor their grandparents. Which is a real shame as they're great teens.

So yes OP, YABU. Let your parents keep the relationship with their grandchildren separate from their relationship with you.