I have namechanged for this as I find it embarrassing and upsetting but basically although generally I get along with most people and am what I'd consider to be fairly likeable, from time to time I will come across someone who hates me from the word go. Which is ok, I don't expect everyone to like me, but these people will go out of their way to be nasty and spiteful to and about me when they don't even know me!
It started at secondary school really; I moved to a new area at the beginning of year 8 so everyone at my school already had friendship groups as they'd been at the school for a year, which was difficult in itself but one girl in particular took a dislike to me on my first day there and for the next few years was just an utter bitch to me for no reason at all. She was unfortunately in my form group and the majority of my lessons and would do things like tell people not to sit next to me, and just come up to me and say "I fucking hate you", would bitch about me to anyone that would listen, and would at any opportunity take my stuff and hide it during lessons. This went on from years 8-11 at school! I had friends but because she didn't like me I always felt as though no one fully committed to properly being my friend as she made such a song and dance about not liking me so they all went along with what she said.
Now in adulthood I still from time to time come across this type of person who will go out of their way to be spiteful to me; my DS is in year 4 at primary school and in his first week at school in reception a mum of a boy in his year decided that she didn't like me, for no apparent reason, and I've spent the past almost 5 years of having to listen to her loudly bitching about me at any opportunity, or saying "fucking bitch" if I walk past her or pointing me out to people and saying she doesn't like me! I have older kids and never had problems with any parents in their year but this really gets me down! And again as a result of her behaviour I feel that other mums in DS's year are wary of getting to know me as they're probably scared of her. She helps out at all PTA events and school trips too so I can't help out at any of those things because she's there!
I have also recently left a job that I'd been at for a year as again everyone was nice enough to me there except one woman, who again instantly decided that she didn't like me, and made it obvious and because she was the main ringleader of the group of people in the office everyone was happy for me to be excluded from things as she didn't like me.
Oh and on a hen weekend a few years ago a friend of a friend whom I'd never met before decided instantly that she didn't like me and was awful to me for the whole weekend!
How can I deal with this type of person? As I said, I don't expect everyone to like me but why do I always get people that are out and out nasty to me? If I don't like someone I just keep it to myself and carry about my life as normal; I certainly wouldn't start being nasty to and about them.