What do you miss about your ex? (Lighthearted-ish)

[OhBlissOhJoy]

I miss his strength. I've had to ask more favours from friends than I am comfortable with and pay people to move heavy stuff around. It makes me feel like a fragile little woman and I hate it.
I miss him doing odd jobs around the home (see above). Although most the stuff that needs doing now he should have done when we were together and didn't.
I miss sharing expenses and not having to worry about whether I can afford the mortgage and bills.
That's not lighthearted is it? It was meant to be.

[Jellybean85]

His Mum's Sunday dinnners and just generally his lovely family 😍

[ClodTheGoat]

I miss shared parenting moments - like joking about how DS danced or something like that. It bothers me that I won't have someone to say "remember when..." when he's grown up. :-(

I also miss his kids, my step kids who spent every weekrnd with me, who I now see every now and then if their mum is feeling kind.

On the other hand I don't miss being cheated on, used as a skivvy and generally made to feel like I didn't matter.

[Strawberryjam34]

Umm nothing! Now I could write a book, a whole series probably, about what I don't miss 😂

[ahamsternest]

He had an insane knack for finding cash on the floor. He always bought my favourite chocolate bar if we stopped for petrol and he went in to pay. For my birthday, he made a treasure hunt with rhyming clues (bit creepy in a post gone girl era). His hair was down to his bum and he let me plait it and his beard.

Other ex: let me tweeze ingrown hairs on his legs if I was stressed. Worked on the railway and had a free pass for anywhere on the network.

[QueenyLaverne]

I miss the companionship, the laying together watching a film, physical contact with another human being (not sex) - sometimes days go by and I realise I haven't even touched another human being - no hugs, hand holding etc. Makes me really sad.

[BrokenPersona]

I miss the way he used to look at me with a certain kind of look if you get what I mean. I also miss the times we'd go on random days out or go on long drives especially through the night. We would often stop off and just gaze up at the stars. It felt like an adventure- our adventure.

However what I don't miss is the way I was treated towards the end when I was poorly. I had undiagnosed bipolar disorder. He left me when I needed support the most. Then over the space of the next two years he dangled a carrot infront of me until he found someone new. That hurt the most.

So for all the things I miss, there are things I don't miss.

[Lweji]

He had good thighs.

I miss some things from when we started going out. But then it all went pear shaped.

[lilyroses]

His penis

[PineappleExpress]

He was great at housework and general adult stuff like bills and fixing things. I hate dealing with that stuff

[dilapidated]

I miss his parents, but despite what he did they have avoided me since I decided to leave him

[TheFormidableMrsC]

I miss some DIY things and him putting the bins out. Have generally managed to get a good grip of everything that needs doing though and I have a lot of male friends who are willing to help and I can call on, which is great.

I could fill a whole thread with the things I don't miss...

[wobblywonderwoman]

Er.. Which one

My most recent (I am married several years) did make me laugh and we had a lot of good nights out .. My first was so good looking and the sex was amazing

But no, I wouldnt want them back

[wobblywonderwoman]

Er.. Which one

My most recent (I am married several years) did make me laugh and we had a lot of good nights out .. My first was so good looking and the sex was amazing

But no, I wouldnt want them back

[yummytummy]

Sex

[LesLavandes]

I miss nothing

[therealpippi]

Of one ex I miss the deep and long conversations, shared interests in books, films etc and reading to eachother.

Of another ex not much, maybe the sexual attraction at the beginning.

Of my last nothing, because we've split so amicably (for now) that I've managed to retain the positives without living with the negatives.

[OhBlissOhJoy]

I have always owned my own toolbox, soldering iron and axe
You rock! I have a garage full of stuff that I don't know what to do with. As an able assistant I was very good at DIY. On my own, not so much.

I could also fill a thread about what I don't miss. But let's not go there tonight

[therealpippi]

Oh of my first love I miss my adoration for him. I even turned down a famous actor I had always loved for him (really??).

[OhBlissOhJoy]

And yes, I also miss the companionship, cuddles and the in-jokes but again, not going there tonight

[Thattwatoverthere]

There have been a few exes!

The last one was a trained mechanic so free car repairs were handy (even though I cleaned his disgusting house top to bottom every weekend in exchange), my car was falling apart pretty quickly. And he worked a lot in my favourite city so I got to go there often which I do miss.

Previous ones, I miss the company and the togetherness and feeling accepted which I didn't get at all from the last one. There were things that led to us not being together but overall we had good times until one day we just didn't anymore. Kind of sad really.

Hopefully soon I'll get to meet someone that ONLY has the good things. I bloody deserve it!

[InTheMoodForLove]

I love all my exes and although they appeared very different they had many common traits I cannot really do without in a partner

(hence years of being single)

great taste in music, dress sense, art and film
great sense of humour dry, witty
no one care in the world what people think and do
never a bad word about anyone
kindness and generosity - real rather than PC
good lovers and fun to have around
the the of guy, not necessarily classically beautiful, nor fit but I like that
all their little peculiarities
their friends and the good time shared

if only had I managed to stick to any !

goddammit !

[TheWeeBabySeamus1]

Most recent ex... His body. It was sculpted by the gods. Literally the only good thing about him though - he's an awful person on the inside.

First BF - everything But mostly him showing up at my house with a kebab at 2:00am after he finished work on a Saturday (worked in a take away) and we'd sit and eat our "dinner" together. We didn't live together and worked different hours so this was one of the few chances we'd get in the week to spend time together. I miss it.

[SpunBodgeSquarepants]

Therealpippi You can't leave it there...! At least give us initials so we can guess!

[Orlandointhewilderness]

XH - I miss the long nights when we would snuggle in and drink vodka and play monopoly. We used to talk the sun up. I miss how close we were. I miss his smell and his gorgeous arms and I miss his sense of humour. I feel sad that we never had the chance to raise a family together.

I don't miss being cheated on!!

I will always love him a bit I think but I would never want him back and it has been 11 years! Current DP is wonderful and I utterly adore him.