Longest time on receiving end of silent treatment??

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Halfway through day four.

My parents used to do this to each other for months and months when we were kids. My brother and I were forever whispering to each other about when it might end. In fact, I remember us being terribly worried one Christmas Eve about whether they'd be speaking on Christmas Day. It was awful, I will NEVER do that to my kids. Both my brother and I suffer with anxiety and I am sure it is related, makes me feel all kinds of weird just writing this. Silent treatment sucks!

That's just shit. Truly shit

3 and a half weeks - the sulker was my mother, I was a teenager. It was so so distressing, I feel upset now just remembering it (I am now 48). I used to leave the house for school every morning thinking she probably wouldn't care if I never came home. She did it a lot but usually just for a few days at a time.

WTAF?!? Your relationship is perfect but he hasn't spoken to you for 4 days?! After half an hour I would have told him to grow up or get out. Your children will know.

9 years of silent treatment from my 'D'M. I don't miss her.

Thank you @pollythedolly this thread has really made me think. People are shocked at 2 days!!! Which was nothing at all in our household. We had fortnights on holiday (in a caravan!) with them not talking, our birthdays - whole six weeks of the school hols, driving over to family for parties or Sunday lunch and they'd just drop in the doorstep (letting me and my brother worry all the way there). The arguments that started it were horrific and always in our view too. My mum always bats me away if I mention it nowbut this thread has reminded me just how NOT NORMAL it is. Once we got to being teenagers we would be on tbe receiving end for months too. No wonder I hold them at arms length as grandparents! Sorry, not my thread and bit of a ramble there...but that was carthartic!

Ramble away! I'm sorry you and your brother had to endure that abhorrent and cruel behaviour. I hope you're both living happy lives now and I would 100% say your anxiety is caused by that.

Xx

Hi, I'm not much help but my oh does this all the time the longest I think was well over a week before he came around.

Flushed, you're right - NOT NORMAL is exactly what it is. I had a similar experience to you growing up - it's highly toxic and corrosive. To my great shame, i have found myself freezing my partner out in the past when we have had an argument. Luckily, i realised what was going on and decided that i did NOT want to turn into my mother, and nipped it in the bud after a couple of hours. I have become better at handling conflict in a healthy way but it's definitely a work in progress. I'm low contact with my parents these days for this and other reasons but, like you, i still suffer from anxiety

My dad was also like this. Of course children notice!
And as others have said I thought this was a normal way to behave and so argument=don't talk to each other for days. I was immensely fortunate to meet a man whose family actually solve their problems very quickly by being open and honest. Yes they're a sometimes a bit of shouting and swearing but it's over in less than a minute and they then get on with their day. The first time I witnessed this I was traimatised as I assumed they wouldn't be speakimh to each other for days. They were all laughing and joking a few minutes later I realised how much healthier that was and than the way my parents were.
OP Have you ever said to your H that what he does is not nice and totally unacceptable?

Flashbacks to my old relationship..... although the silent treatment could probably last forever, I couldn't deal with it so would always hold out the olive branch. Since splitting, I realise now it is a control mechanism, emotional abuse, and for me anyhow there were a lot of other ways they controlled me, didn't "allow" me to do things etc. Well shot of that one.

www.goodtherapy.org/blog/silent-treatment-a-narcissistic-persons-preferred-weapon-0602145