Having children when your 34 years or more.

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Hi all,

Following the success of my last post and knowing how much it helped people please feel free to respond to the thread.

Who out there has had children when they over 34 years old bracket. If you did what age did you have them? How old are you now and do you feel uncomfortable about any aspect of your life or your child's life.

Also how old were you meet your partner? What was it on the back of? (i.e. a bad relationship)

Thanks in advance from someone in crisis.

Got together with husband at 27 (friends for several years)
Married at 29
First child at 38
Second child at nearly 42
All still going strong at 56

Met DH at 25, married at 30 and first DD at 40, she is now 7 months old.

DD at 37

OP I've just read your previous thread. You have nothing to worry about as far as your age goes - you can still be an active dad for another 20 years if you stay fit! What makes me sad is the guys you see who let themselves slide into inactivity in their 20s and 30s and then find it difficult to keep up with their kids. Dd has a friend whose dad is 52, and he plays football in the park with his 7 year old ds at least twice a week. He's a slightly overweight university lecturer, but he's always kept moving so he can still keep up.

First child at 37, second at 40. It's pretty common round here, and I certainly don't feel old at the school gate. Age hasn't been an issue at all. I'm still running round on my scooter and ice skating (not at the same time!).

Met DH when I was 18, got together at 19, married at 21. Enjoyed life, each other and our careers. Emigrated to Canada 6 years ago. Turns out I conceived just before we left. DS arrived 2 weeks before I turned 38. He's now 5.

38 with my first, 39 with my second. I was a career woman and wife number two. He wasn't keen as already had two but decided I'd be an excellent mum. Now nearly 50 and Couldn't be happier; can't believe I fitted it all in!

Oh yes, and most of my mum friends are a similar age. Quite common now.

Had DD at 27, alone as father had no interest. Met now DH at 32, currently 35 weeks pregnant and I'm 36 now.

I didn't want anymore children but we came to a compromise and I'm ok with that

Met husband August 2013 when I was 32, moved in July 2014, engaged December 2014, married May 2015 and returned from honeymoon pregnant when I was 34. DD born not long after I turned 35. I'm now 36, DD is 14 months and we are trying for #2.

35 and 37. Come to north london, we're ALL ancient mums, I was a spring chicken :)

There are some downsides - illness of or losing parents is a more common theme, and of course illness in yourself is a bit more likely. However, I think there's a lot in what people say about staying fit if you can. Having kids later been a a motivator to look after yourself

Met my husband in '82
Married in '85
Infertility treatments on and off
First son born in '99 when I was 36
Youngest born in '01 when I was 38.

There have been no problems, no regrets, pregnancies were a breeze and both labours quick and easy. They're 16 and 18 this year and are great kids. Sure, there's been the odd mis-step but I think they've been a lot less trouble than I was at that ages.

The only blot was joining an online mums group and being told I was selfish and disgusting for having them so late as I was sure to die before they grew up and they'd have to grow up without a mum.

First at 33. Second at 41 and third at 43. I'm 49 now. I'm a much better older parent than I was first time. I'm more patient and raise them with an emphasis on what I consider important (people not possessions). My eldest is struggling and the younger two thriving.

I married the father of the youngest two within 2 months of meeting. Divorcing now.

Met DH at age 31. He was 51 (no previous marriage and no children).

Had DS at 34 (DH was 54).

I had my last birth child at 38 but now have a 2yr old that i adopted aged 52 !
Still love being a mum and dont mind being the oldest mum on the block !!

37 and 39 with my two. Never felt ready before although I always knew I wanted at least one child.

Met dh when I was 25 and he was 33. We had DS1 when I was 28, DS2 when I was 31, DS3 when I was 33 and DS4 when I was 37. We are currently thinking of trying for 1 more (I'm 39 and he's 46 right now). :)

When I met dh he had broken up a few weeks earlier with a girlfriend he had been with for 7 years. When we met I had been single for 2 years (and casually dating different people), before that I had been with a guy for 6 years.

Met DJ age 40, miscarriage age 41 and 42 x 2, had DC age 43 and 47. I work FT and DH is SAHD. They are very lively and doing well. DH finds it very tiring and I unfortunately have been quite unwell at times with a long standing health condition but I was delighted to have them and would have been devastated not to have had kids.