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He's gone

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YellowPansy1234 · 13/03/2017 18:22

Just feel really low.

My boyfriend split up with me this morning. Feel like my heart has split into a million pieces.

I trusted him. Trusted in everything he promised. I'm a complete lone parent as well and I let myself trust him which was hard

But he's left anyway. All too difficult.

This will feel easier right? I mean I will do my day to day life but the pain goes away right?

Fuck. I really loved him.

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ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 14/03/2017 20:05

I often tell myself that when I'm feeling low - I have a man in my life. He may only be little but he's awesome. How strange you got offered this fresh start today. Life is odd sometimes. Is it somewhere you'd like to go?

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YellowPansy1234 · 14/03/2017 20:27

Umm the location is no worse than the one now. Probably slighter better with nice schools. The job is far far better. A real promotion. Am shocked to be offered it.

Need to bury my rat now before DS wakes up.

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YellowPansy1234 · 14/03/2017 21:14

Aaarrghhh someone talk to me before I message him.

Have so much to decide. Want to discuss it with him but know it's pointless.

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YellowPansy1234 · 14/03/2017 21:15

Might write the letter

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PowerPantsRule · 14/03/2017 21:21

Step away from the phone!!

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 14/03/2017 21:22

No messaging! Write the letter! Tell yourself you can always post it (except you won't!). You've got to delete that number. Someone told me to write my ex's on a scrap of paper (to make it less painful than deletion) and freeze it in an ice cube tray. One night, I crumbled and decided to call him - the forty five minutes it took to try and scrape that paper out with frozen fingers gave me enough time to realise I should at least wait until morning... By which time, I'd changed my mind. Anyone else you can talk it over with?

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YellowPansy1234 · 14/03/2017 21:57

I love the ice cube idea! Plus it made me smile. Like how mental do these arseholes make us.

No won't do it. Have written a letter.

Might take that job. Done some sums Looked at some schools.

Put my lovely rat in a box.

So hard on your own. Not that I need anyone to survive.

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ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 14/03/2017 22:56

Reminds me of a joke a friend once sent me - "Menstruation and menopause - what three letters do they both begin with?". Poor Ratty, what was his/her name? Bit of a mixed day for you but I still think it's spooky this job opportunity came up TODAY (and I'm not remotely 'woo').

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YellowPansy1234 · 15/03/2017 06:59

I contacted him. We spoke. It was a disaster. But made me realise that nothing has changed. He won't change.

So actually feel much better. Like I can let go of some of the hurt and just accept the situation.

I'm taking that job. New life

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flibbertigibbety · 16/03/2017 07:32

How are you doing today OP? Do you feel you made the right decision contacting him?

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 16/03/2017 08:24

The only thing I would say missy is that, while a fresh start sounds brilliant, are you absolutely sure it's not a 'fight or flight' reaction to your sudden shock?

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