A friend of mine has been with her partner for about 10 years. About 5 years ago she got engaged, splashed photos of the down-on-one-knee proposal all over social media. A week later it was all over- turns out he'd been shagging two of his exes for years. It was awful for her, although friends were thinking she'd dodged a bullet as he was rather arrogant and patronising to her.
Fast forward six months and the engagement is back on. She now checks his phone and emails, and he has ditched social media on her say so. Friends are surprised, but supportive, as it's obviously what she wants, and people don't listen to voices of doom do they?
Last week my husband asked me if my friend and partner were still together. Turns out that while away in Edinburgh on business (200 miles from home) he'd seen her partner in the hotel restaurant with another woman. He couldn't be sure, but he thought they were staying at the hotel, and they looked to be more than just friends. They didn't see him. Coincidentally, one of the women he cheated on my friend with is from Edinburgh.
It sounds to me like he's up to his old tricks. But do I tell her? She's a very anxious person, but I think I would want to know if it were me.