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How often do you phone your mum?

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pinkchampagne · 03/03/2007 12:39

I was just wondering how often others speak to their mum's on the phone, as my mum gets very funny with me if I leave it more than around 5 days.
I work in the day, then come home & have the boys demanding, & once they are in bed, I have a bath & something to eat, then it is quite late. I just feel the need to relax at that stage in the evening & tend not to make any phone calls unless I have to!
I went round to see my parents on Sunday & haven't dared to phone mum for a lift to work, as she will accuse me of only phoning because I need something!
I know I'm going to be in trouble again, so will either phone her later today or tomorrow, but I am dreading the lecture I may get!
Am I being a terrible daughter?
How often do others speak to their mum's & do you get similar reactions if you leave it more than a few days?

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sauce · 03/03/2007 22:28

totally agree, pinkchampagne

bubblicious · 03/03/2007 22:30

I phone my mum as little as poss, I cant remember whhen the last time I rang her- she annoys me to much!

UnquietDad · 03/03/2007 22:42

DW's mum gets a bit funny if she hasn't spoken to her for 48 hours. MIL starts to wonder if there is a "reason", when of course it's just been the usual reasons - school, work, life, shopping.

If we are out and MIL phones, god help us - DW gets third degree. "Where were you?" etc. And "out" or "with friends" is never good enough.

Flossam · 03/03/2007 22:47

All very dependable. Used to be twice a week forever. Then when certain things happen the frequency increases. We're kind of back down to every 2/3 days now. Was every day for a while, then every other for a long time. I see her roughly once a month for a few days.

HappyDaddy · 03/03/2007 22:55

I try to remember once a week but usually i get dw saying "have you called your mum lately? if she dies tomorrow, you'll be the one crying that you didn't speak to her enough".

[rolls eyes]

mistressmiggins · 03/03/2007 23:37

well last months BT bill showed I spent 10 hrs on the phone to my mum....but I also see her every Thurs (seh picks DS up from school & DD from nursery so I can work late) and most Sundays

we live in same town

I can ring her for 30 min chat & then pop round an hour later

drives my dad potty

Califrau · 03/03/2007 23:43

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MrsSpoon · 03/03/2007 23:48

Twice a week (she lives about 30 miles away, so not popping in distance), usually for at least 1 hour at a time. I phone her because I have a good deal with my mobile and have loads of call time to use up.

MrsSpoon · 03/03/2007 23:49

Califrau, my Dad's a bit like that, not a phone person, if my Mum isn't in I talk to my Dad, he can be quite chatty if I catch him on the right day.

SHHHH · 03/03/2007 23:52

thing is champers, its down to individual choice. What is normal to someone may not be to you iykwim. My sis speaks to mum prob once a week if that and does comment on how often i see or`speak to mum. BUT that said, like others my mum does do my head in and on those occasions i can go a few days/week till i call her......don't mean it in a bad way but its best not to call for fear of snapping .

like others though, if she calls me and gets no reply, next she calls my mob and the messages get more frantic !

prior to having the dc i would call mum daily from work, maybe 2/3 times and would meet at lunch or after work..she doesn't work either.

i don't think you are being terrible btw, you just have different views and maybe a different relationship than those that call more regular.

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pinkchampagne · 04/03/2007 09:17

You lot all seem much better than me at contacting your mum's!
I will phone her later today & be prepared for a telling off!!

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mankyscotslass · 04/03/2007 09:55

I speak on the phone to mum at least once a day, and on messenger at least 3 or 4 times. When i was working before i had 2nds dc, we spoke at least once a day too. I just had to fit it in around my shifts. Not worth the grief i would have got if i hadn't called tbh. I moved south 7 years ago, and i think its important for me to speak to her frequently. Have to say, messenger is great, can wave on the camera, and we dont seem to fall out so much! far easier having conversations on messenger for us!

zippitippitoes · 04/03/2007 09:59

I can't believe this thread..i find all this phoning mums amazing

5 or 6 times i would feel i was verging on insanity if i had to talk on the phone all day

chacha3 · 04/03/2007 10:22

i phone her at least once a day and see her everyday too! me and my mum like best friends

NomDePlume · 04/03/2007 10:26

Once a week/every 10 days. She phones me once a week too. She lives 1h45m away from us, we see her on average once a month/one every six weeks.

NomDePlume · 04/03/2007 10:29

I find phoning up to 5 times a day a bit odd. Don't get me wrong, I love my Mum and we get on like a house on fire, but I would have nothing to say if I phoned that often.

Iota · 04/03/2007 10:31

the phone works both ways PinkChampagne - why can't she call you?

zippitippitoes · 04/03/2007 10:32

if my kids phoned me that often I would be seriously annoyed and or worried about them

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pinkchampagne · 04/03/2007 10:42

LOL, zippi!
I am glad I am not the only one who doesn't always get round to contacting my parents more than once a week.
Sometimes I do speak a few times a week, but other times I don't get round to it, and then I know I will be in trouble!

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zippitippitoes · 04/03/2007 10:47

there must be some bored people around i think it sounds quite sweet but gosh three children you could be fielding nearly 20 calls a day.

it's a bit like when people go on holiday with a vieo camera clamped to their face they don't have a holiday they just film it

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pinkchampagne · 04/03/2007 11:08

LOL at the video camera on holiday! That's my parents too!!
Last Sunday mum was showing me a video of a holiday in Florida & after 30 mins of watching various people swimming in the pool, I started to get a little bored!!

Just tried to phone, but got no answer!

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zippitippitoes · 04/03/2007 11:12

oh yes exfil managed 6 hours footage of a smilar thing also florida

you see the beds and the shower in the room the buffet breakfast mil trying on animal hats and dressed to go for dinner each evening sunsets nd the traffic on international drive people queueing for rides

dinner etc

mankyscotslass · 04/03/2007 11:21

Have to say, my brother is nowhere near as regular at contacting mum, tends to be a phone call every few weeks, although he does chat every couple of days to her on messenger. I think I feel guilty for being away from her still....she is on her own and not in the best of health, so I do feel responsible for her in some sort of strange way. Been like that since she and my father seperated. She is very good at making me feel guilty without saying a word....or maybe I am imagining it

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pinkchampagne · 04/03/2007 13:58

Well I keep trying to phone, but am not getting an answer. Maybe she is so cross that she is ignoring me!
Seems H & the boys have been invited round there for dinner later, but I don't think I'm invited because I'm bad!

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pinkchampagne · 04/03/2007 14:00

Not that I want to go round, but it is a bit odd because H & I are no longer a couple!

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