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If you’re single would you ever share a room with a male colleague/if you’re not would you mind if your partner shared with a female colleague?

32 replies

user14874426999 · 28/02/2017 02:06

I’m single, last Friday was on a work night out and ended up with me and one male colleague last out, I had missed my last train home and he was staying in a hotel in the city and he offered a couple of times for me to stay on the sofa bed in his room. I was tempted (it was a very expensive taxi ride!) but in the end refused because I didn’t know him well enough to be able to tell whether it was a genuine offer or whether he would have expected more and even if it had have been genuine I think it would have still felt a bit odd and given the wrong impression to anyone who knew as he has a girlfriend. My flatmate when I got home though said she’d have stayed so now am not sure if I was being too cautious.

FWIW this guy has never tried anything or given any impression he was looking to cheat - I think it was probably a genuine offer but even completely platonic sharing would be weird for me if it was my boyfriend and a colleague of his I didn’t know.

OP posts:
SandyY2K · 28/02/2017 20:13

In my younger single days, when I didn't think through this I probably would have. Being older and wiser, I definitely wouldn't and I wouldn't be impressed if my DH had a female in his room either. It could lead to the end of our marriage.

Wingsofdesire · 28/02/2017 20:13

Sorry for my 'woulds' and 'your' not 'you're' ... bit of a clunky way of saying what I thought ... but you get the drift.

Safer out of it.

ActuallyThatsSUPREMECommander · 28/02/2017 20:14

Only the gay ones.

bloodyteenagers · 28/02/2017 20:15

Someone I hardly know? No. I don't care who you are, if I don't know you proper then I'm not sharing

Summerisdone · 28/02/2017 20:21

I wouldn't have seen it as an issue, and I know many others would have either. Unfortunately though many other people automatically make assumptions that a male and female adult cannot be in the same room without it being sexual and you were probably right in thinking some people would have gotten the wrong impression. It's not right that people think this way, however sadly many people are still so narrow minded so you probably did the best thing in order to prevent gossip within work

Sunbeam18 · 28/02/2017 21:29

I think you made the right call, OP. Definitely.

Sunbeam18 · 28/02/2017 21:30

Especially after just watching Apple Tree Yard, tbh.

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