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Dear MN, Please give me some good comebacks

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SundaysFundays · 19/02/2017 15:46

It's one of those. I've had a nice cordial relationship with this other mum at school for a few yrs. Our two DS's were good friends. We meet at pickups, have a bit of a chinwag, bid eachother farewell and go home.

For whatever reason, I noticed other mum started to pull back for a couple of reasons that will make this thread too long, but one to do with the fact DS has SN and the other I think she thought DS might spoil her son's academic chances.

Anyway, live and let live I thought, her DS can be friends with whoever he wants, although I felt a bit sad. In the last two years I've noticed other mum commenting more and more on my clothes.comments like, 'You look really warm in that' , or 'I knew it! I knew Sun will be all wrapped up,' drawing the attention of other parents in the process.

On these occasions I've nearly died of embarrassment. January of 2016 after Xmas I bumped into this mum and her first comment was about my coat. 'Why are you wearing all that?' Confused. It was the first week back at school after Xmas, I was in my usual parka coat, with a scarf round my neck and hat on. Most people at pickup were dressed the same. It was a freezing, foggy afternoon. Hope everyone's getting the picture now?

My last encounter was I think last week this January (we had one freezing week before suddenly the warm weather appeared) I was again wearing my usual coat with a scarf but no hat. Her first comment was, 'when I stepped out of my door this morning, the first person I thought of was you! Cue her DS giggling.

'Why?' I asked puzzled, '
Her - because I knew you're always cold!
Me - but it's January, and you yourself are wearing a coat and hat....
Her - But you're always cold, I k ew you'd be wrapped from head to toe....walks of laughing with her son.

It's seems this woman for whatever reason just gets of ridiculing me for some reason and it's really annoying me now. I wouldn't dream of commenting on how someone I'd dressed unless it was to compliment them. My coat is just a normal coat, nothing odd about it, I often wear trousers underneath, with boots. A jumper on top or a shirt. To me I look like every other mum at pickup.

Please give me some good non aggressive but sharp cutting replies to shut her up for good.

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SundaysFundays · 20/02/2017 13:23

CondensedMilk No, but I'm inspired by it #beinspired Grin

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SpongebobRoundPants · 20/02/2017 13:30

'Really? How bizarre.'

Walk away before she has time to reply.

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GoodDayToYou · 20/02/2017 14:19

Loving the mn tinkly laugh.

And, loving the lesbian references. "You seem quite into my clothes. (Loud whisper) Sorry, but I'm not into women." Could be a bit too subtle though.

How about, "Do you have anything nice to say?" It's not offensive but gets to the point and might make her think.

It sounds like she's doing that thing people do when they can't admit they've been an ass so instead, they feel better by putting you down. Unfortunately, they often keep doing it until you make it uncomfortable for them. I certainly get the stress of these things. I find it helps to tell myself, "She's not my people." It softens it for me somehow.

You could of course, just own it. I've got warm clothes on, in the cold - oooo! (Cue: little dance and waving of hands in the street!)

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GoodDayToYou · 20/02/2017 14:26

CondensedMilkSarnies - that pic really made me laugh! Grin

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GoodDayToYou · 20/02/2017 14:30

Actually, I've had a re-think. If you opt for humour, avoid anything which puts you down in any way. Don't want to feed the beast!

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rosabug · 20/02/2017 18:20

My sister in law kept making comments about my eating. One day on holiday when I had a cream tea instead of lunch she said "Bur that's for 4.00 not lunch!" - I just looked her in the eye and said "Sue - I can eat what I fuckin want when I want". She's never mentioned my dietary choices again.

People like this go on because you don't stop them. Small time bullies.

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SundaysFundays · 20/02/2017 19:12

I'll be sure to update you all as soon as the venom is unleashed. Smile

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SundaysFundays · 20/02/2017 19:16

I think someone will have to show me the tinkly laugh as DS is starting to look at me concerned.

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SundaysFundays · 14/03/2017 18:41

UPDATE***

Well...following on from your wonderful advise. I'm sitting on a bench minding my own business having a conversation with another parent whilst waiting for DS to appear. Suddenly the fashion police woman appears and immediately makes a beeline for me/us.

Just so you know, obviously it was rather nice weather yeaterday, so I'm wearing jeans, and a thin jersey top. No coat, jacket etc.

Fashion police siddles up to me..

Me:'hello XXX'
FP: 'hellooo Sunday's, You know I was thinking about you again today because you know how you like to always wrap up wearing your coat etc etc etc, and today is warm, so I'm quite surprised to see do not have a coat etc etc....
Me: (went a bit blank at first, short pause, then suddenly 'You really must get a hobby if all you can think about is what I'm wearing. You sound very bored!'
FP: laughs nervously and shuts up.
Me: (switch back to nice lady I was in convo with), rounded up conversation and do the mwah ..mwah 'goodbye' to nice lady 'we'll catch up on phone'. quickly turn to FP. As I walk off and do a tinkly 'goodbye'!

By the way Fashion police lady was wearing two cardigans on top of each other. None of my business but why on why comment on other people's clothes when you can barely get yourself together?Confused

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bignamechangeroonie · 14/03/2017 18:46

"You've just reminded me I need to get haemorrhoid cream"

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GoodDayToYou · 14/03/2017 19:37

Oh well done, OP!! Bloody brilliant!! Grin

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Fairybella · 14/03/2017 19:55

Love it... 2 cardis I would have pissed myself... then walked off

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CharlieBoo · 14/03/2017 20:11

Love this!!! Well done you!! She won't say a word to you again!

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SundaysFundays · 14/03/2017 20:19

Grin I'll save the haemorrhoid cream one too.

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rosabug · 14/03/2017 20:21

Brilliant Sundays! I bet you felt good after.

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MooPointCowsOpinion · 14/03/2017 20:30

Well done! That's put he old cow face back in her box.

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