no contact, is he uninterested?

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Very new relationship, 2 months or so. He's currently on half term holiday with his sister, bro inlaw and their three dcs.

We had a lovely date the night before he left and he's now been away almost a week. We've made plans to go on another date next week, after he gets back.

Meanwhile, I haven't heard a dicky bird from him. No phonecall, text, email, nothing.

AIBU to wonder if he's still into me?

Oh jeez, these threads are so stressful!

I really don't get all the hand wringing and angst, if you want to talk just call or text! All this crap of men having to make the first move is ridiculous!

OP just text him and say you hope he's having a good time and you are looking forward to seeing him when he gets back.

Let us know when he txts you op, I'm curious now :-)

In my opinion if a person is uncertain whether to text /call or not and is staring at their phone willing it to ping or ring ,then it shows that the other person is more in control of things and is a sign that a relationship is unbalanced.

Op take control of this , don't dither and try to analyse it , just send a text. If it's a newish relationship and the chap is keen he should also be chomping at the bit to hear from you.

Did you reply 'can't wait to see you too' when he texted to say he couldn't wait to see you.
He's probably posting on some other forum 'I told this woman I've been seeing I couldn't wait to see her and she never replied - haven't heard from her since - do you think she's uninterested?'

When I had been dating my DP for about 3 months she went away on the same weekend I was away camping with friends. We had texted everyday up until that point - I waited all day for a text from her, staring at my phone, switching it off and on again - the text never came. I went to bed in my little tent very miserable.
By lunchtime the next day I couldn't help myself - sent a breezy text - and got an immediate reply. She also had been staring at her phone all the previous day waiting for a text from me. Bit soppy I know - we've been together 10 yrs now and are a little more sensible. We are two women so maybe it's different I'm not sure.

I remember a friend referring to it as "incommunicado "
She meant when 2 people in a new relationship are hesitant to txt each other first. ( that's just what she calls it but I think it fits)
I think this is the case here op xx

incommunicado! Yes, that fits here!

I'm definitely overthinking it. He hasn't given me any reason at all to think he's getting cold feet. We had such a lovely date before he left, laughed loads and he said he wished I was coming with them.

And I'm thinking about how rubbish I am at even switching my phone on when I'm on holiday. And that's when I'm with one friend let alone a whole family.

He's back tomorrow so I'll leave him to decompress and get in touch when he's ready to plan next date.

I love the thrill of a new relationship op, I've been with my
Partner for 7 years and can't imagine being without him but I remember how exciting and awkward it was when we first got together , I do miss that a teeny bit sometimes :-) x

texting from overseas costs money... he maybe just has his phone off x

Don't text and don't worry! Let him get on with his holiday and you get on with something more interesting!

I don't switch my data on when I'm abroad as it costs a fortune. In the past I've spent nearly £200 on just a few calls and texts and can't be bothered anymore. I go on social media when I have WiFi and that's it and friends and family know to contact me like that.

Nope, don't buy any of that ! If he is interested he will make time to send ONE text, and won't mind spending a few quid on a text ffs ! He can find somewhere with WiFi surely and make a free whatsapp call if he's that bleedin' tight

Why is it that posters on MN seem to love giving OPs hope, and always say 'text him' even if it will make the OP look like a twat. you wouldn't say it to your best mate so don't say it here.

I think HotNatured just took me back to the 1950s!

I really really don't think it would make me look like a twat if I texted!

Not that I have. But if I'd wanted to, it wouldn't make me a twat!

Lol .. There had to be one :-)

He just texted:
"heading home tomorrow! What are you doing on Sunday? Fancy a lazy one?"

See ?

chiìiiiill

Thanks AnyFucker and to all t'others who gave me a grip

Aw brilliant , hope you messaged back lol x

that's lovely

Aw, so pleased for you. I bet he's been dying to text, he'll have just wanted a reason.
Enjoy your lazy Sunday

A lazy what exactly?

A lazy shagfest

Have fun, and tell him you missed talking (but leave out the extended overthinking ;))

Yay and have a fab weekend!

Wooop woooop!!! Excitement