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Found viagra

28 replies

Chickpearocker · 14/02/2017 15:37

So my mum has found a pack of viagra, there's one gone, seems to be getting them on prescription monthly. Parents are not intimate anymore. Is there any explanation as to why my dad would be using these apart from an affair?

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Bones2017 · 14/02/2017 15:46

They are actually licences for use with heart conditions. Could this be the reason? X

MrsMessyBottom · 14/02/2017 15:47

Viagra was first used (and still is) to treat vascular or circulation problems as far as I'm aware. The side effect of using the drug was an accident.... It's unusual but not out of the question.

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Chickpearocker · 14/02/2017 15:47

I don't think so he's on other meds for heart plus hiding them xx

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SandyY2K · 14/02/2017 15:53

If the reason for no intimacy is not his personal choice, then I would lean to it being an affair.

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Chickpearocker · 14/02/2017 16:07

As far as I know it's not his choice, I never thought he would have an affair though.

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TroysMammy · 14/02/2017 16:10

Does he get them free? Is he flogging them to a mate who doesn't qualify for a NHS prescription and has to buy on a private script?

DeterminedToChange · 14/02/2017 16:11

There wouldn't just be one missing then, would there?

Bluebellevergreen · 14/02/2017 16:14

Off topic but disturbed you are having this chat with DM Blush

peppatax · 14/02/2017 16:16

Are they definitely viagra?

SmileEachDay · 14/02/2017 16:17

Why is your mother talking to you about this?

PintofSquash · 14/02/2017 16:17

Why would you be disturbed Bluebelle? Seems like the sort of problem Mothers and Daughters discuss if they are close enough, I know I would.

Kanewreck · 14/02/2017 16:18

Maybe he uses them for masturbation

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Chickpearocker · 14/02/2017 16:18

Thanks for your replies, I thought maybe he was giving them to a friend but then I don't think one would be missing more likely to give a pack I think. Bluebellevergreen it's not something she wanted to tell me but she is devastated and not sure who else to turn to, if there is someone else then the outcome won't be good for any of us.

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Beachedwh4le · 14/02/2017 16:21

Masterbation? Just ask

Happybunny19 · 14/02/2017 16:22

Masturbation is very likely. Not sure it's a conversation you want to have with your DF though

SmileEachDay · 14/02/2017 16:28

Really pinto? I'm not sure discussing a) your lack of sex life or b) the possibility of an affair with your children is a great idea. It's not up to your children to help you sort that stuff out.

FatOldBag · 14/02/2017 16:38

Prostitutes?

nicetoseeyoutoseeyounice · 14/02/2017 17:23

How do you know he's on a monthly prescription for them? If it's just the one pack, and only one is gone, then maybe he was just experimenting in the hopes he could rekindle some sort of sex life with your mum. I really hope for her sakes that is the case. But if she really wants to know she's going to have to be brave and ask him herself.

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Chickpearocker · 14/02/2017 17:36

He got more tablets this month and there's a prescription label and date so getting monthly. There's no point asking he will just lie.

I didn't know they could be used for masturbation, I almost feel relieved that there's hope.

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FuckyNell · 14/02/2017 17:37

Eww

Adora10 · 14/02/2017 17:52

Why would you go to the bother and expense for a wank, sorry but I'm afraid I'd be thinking a lot worse than that.

Jessica4444 · 14/02/2017 17:57

I think your DM should ask him.

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Chickpearocker · 14/02/2017 18:19

If she asks him he won't admit anything as he knows then that the marriage will be over. He will then just cover his tracks so I'm thinking it would be better to try and find out more first.

Adora he doesn't have to pay anything the tablets are free.

The Eww comment and comments about why my mother and I have conversed about this isn't helping me. I am already sick to my stomach as is she and contemplating a long hard road ahead and the break up of our family.

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Jessica4444 · 14/02/2017 18:27

And if your wrong by his wife getting his daughter to snoop on him over what could be a very personal issue and not an affair that itself can ruin a marriage. They've clearly been together for along time so a chat she should be able to gauge by his reaction if he has something to hide. On the flip side if it is an affair he clearly isnt bothered if the marriage is over as he is the one risking it. I'd keep out of if I was you.

HarmlessChap · 14/02/2017 18:27

Why would you go to the bother and expense for a wank
Because sometimes you want to have an orgasm maybe?

It could be for masturbation, while its generally OK without I've used it myself for solo activity as my ED is worse at sometimes than others.

That said there is a strong chance he's looking elsewhere for the intimacy he's not getting at home, given that its not his choice, sorry.