Are me and my DH unusual and weird..................................because we get on ?

[april74]

Whilst talking to a good friend yesterday via msn, she was having another bad day in regard to her relationship, when I tried to offer a suggestion (as you go) she said its ok your you your relationship is perfect, my relationship is not perfect, we just get on and if we have a problem discuss it, we work at it, I dont get wound up from the little things he does as accepted long ago that men and women think differently. he does annoy from time and time and we do have rows.

She said all her friends moan about there partner and i am weird and our relationship is unusal, It did make me chuckle as I know a few people who are not unhappy in their relationship.

Maybe your expectations are more realistic and thus you are happier?

How lucky you are to have such a great relationship.

give it time {grin}

We both been in serious previous relationships that went on for years longer than they should, I guess we also learn't our lessons from that.

My Dp have been together for 1o years and get on so well we have decided to marry next year. I have friends who honestly seem to despise and resent their DH/DP so much and so often I wonder why they are still together...but they seem to think this is a normal relationship...?

good for you. you both have your eyes open and that is why

No you are not weird April74.

Me and DH are in a similar boat. We have had ups and downs (serious ones). Having come through these, we are now in the position to be able to talk about things and to resolve things with far less upset than say 10 years ago.

We are happy together.

mumto3girls

thats exactly how my friend is, so miserable, and then said it always works itself out.

I feel its me that they want to justify my relationship.

thanks dejags

I think soap on the telly makes people think their life has to have constant conflict, drama, betrayal and misery in it, or they feel abnormal!

lol

Me and my dh get on really well. He's so laid back that he rarely gets worked up about anything (which can occasionally be a bit annoying) and if I do have a moan he usually just takes it then forgets about it within half an hour. I can't remember the last time we had a proper arguement. We have only ever had one really big one and that was before we got married (have been married for nearly 3 years) so I guess we're doing pretty well.

Mind you we do know that we are weird and a bit mad!

sometimes my house is worse than eastenders

Dh and I get on well too. Oh I like to have an irrational go at him now and again but we have a laugh, talk lots and both have the same ideas on the whole about life..(except his Genesis records )

funnily enough happystory thats where me and Dh disagree most is on music

We are the same I enjoy his company as much now as when we met and after 16 yrs still love hom to bits Life is too short to fight.I would rather be alone than in that situation

I always feel a little sad to read mumsnet and see hundreds of threads by people who seem to barely tolerate their partners.

Either thousands of women stay in relationships that make them unhappy, or some/most of them are not really unhappy, they just like to moan, which I find almost as depressing. I never slag my partner off to anyone - not because he's perfect (who is?) but because I think loyalty is one of the most important things you can have in a relationship and I don't think it's particularly loyal to continually bang on about every grievance you've ever had with your partner to anyone who'll listen.

Anyway. So I don't think it's unusual that you get on with your partner, but you are unusual in that you don't moan about him all the time, and well done for that.

I've always been a bit bemused when people say 'You have to work at marriage'. Do you? We work at sorting out the occasional problem or disagreement that we may have, but we do things like saying the same thing at the same time.
I think if you have the same values and attitude to life then it's easy to get on. Some people seem to have to score points all the time.

DH and I get along really well too - I mean he's mad as a bag of frogs and a true eccentric - for any of you who may have read my threads with regards to his dress sense and when he dresses DD in mad stuff or in the recent case forgot clothes altogether and wrapped her up in plastic carriers and a dog blanket to get home from swimming - you'll know what I'm talking about

But although we can be Olympic bickerers (is that a word??) we never let the sun go down on an argument and try hard to resolve or respect each others wishes/beliefs.

I mean I accept his eccentricity and he accepts I'm invariably right on everything !!

A man with terrible dress sense and totally disorganised when he takes a child out?

I can't believe it!

DP and I get on pretty well, we have our rows but we essentially know that we are happy with each other, we are going to stay together and so we always seem to be able to sort things out.

What I have always believed is that if you have a row and it goes as far as you splitting up and you separate for longer than a week then you have proved the fact that you can actually live without one another and so its easy to walk away again. DP and I have never ever split up, we argue and then we make up within a day as we cannot stand not talking to one another for longer than that.

Maybe we are just sad

I know fortyplus - Strange eh ??

We never go to bed without making up - and we do the same with the children.