The Grey Rocks #1

[Suchalovelyday]

Starting a thread as discussed over on AIBU for those of us whose mums feel the need to verbally attack/put us down/treat us like shit.

I realise Grey Rock can be used in many things, please feel free to join in if you wish to use Grey Rock on someone in your life. The threaD is for successful and not so successful uses of Grey Rock, as well as outrageous examples of what brings us to needing Grey Rock.

Can someone cleverer than me please link the thread from AIBU to here and vice versa.

Posting random pics of grey rocks is also welcome, extra kudos to pics you've taken yourself and are now considered odd. Huge sparkly prize if you manage to text your Grey a Rock pic to the person giving you grief AND stay grey rock at the response. Your text must read 'I saw this lovely stone today'.

Brilliant news.

Keep on taking advice and work out how to navigate the future.

Keep on talking to us if it helps.

XX

Wo was, Bees, well done on all!

Kids will always try to hold onto the fairytale ending, and they'll excuse any behaviour. In these cases mummy really does know best.

A happy safe household is all the stability they need - houses are just houses and kids adapt brilliantly. Don't even think of this part as a thing.

Sadly DV isn't just the domain of perhaps stereotypical social set ups. It's actually a very middle class thing too, and often festers for far longer because people are embarrassed!

I'm sorry I've missed your updates, I've been decorating and now nursing a cold.

I've had one conversation with my mum. We talked about a few things but I think she's gone into watch and wait mode, all very neutral. She did shove in a strategic 'love you' at the end of the call. Yes, it's used or withheld depending on the day :-/.

I did grey rock today on some shitty neighbour's. Well, my default one: completely ignoring his words designed to worry me.

How's everyone else?

I'm good. All fine.

Bees you OK?

OP what was neighour trying to worry about world gnome take over!!

Yeah I'm good thanks, still heard nothing from stbxh... I'm slightly perturbed that there has been not one attempt at contact since Wednesday night - purely because I am not sure what he's thinking..
I have spoken to my ds, I have told him that me and his dad are separating, because of his bad treatment of us. He cried, he shouted, he called him 'a prick' (he asked me first if he could!). I told him that I tried my hardest to make things ok but in the end it wasn't enough, but that I love him 10000% and his and his sister's happiness is my priority. We went into my bed and watched a film together. Tonight he's told me that he has told some of his friends at school..
I went to my GP, upon the advice of my solicitor who has referred me to a womensaid project to support me through things ( which I think can only help with ensuring my custody of the kids over his). I also went to see a solicitor and I'll start divorce proceedings next week. It's been an eventful week. I am really pleased with the outcome overall but slightly worried still about tomorrow and wondering what he will do next...
xx

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Thinking if you, bees.

Thank you Italian. I'm a bit all over the place tbh. In a good way mostly...!
I have had a couple of wines so I'm just gonna say it, your advice (everyone who took the time to comment) has actually changed my life. I hope you all know that x

Bees I am very pleased to hear that.

@Bees and @Such a lovely day - how are you?