DH finds a celebrity more attractive than me.

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I had no clue how to write the title? I know she's more attractive than me, so have no issue with him pointing that out. I'm sure in our marriage I've said someone is handsome, etc.

However, he has recently commented on a meme of her on Facebook. Tagging his friend and saying "if I weren't married... ;)" and I just don't appreciate that. Am I being over sensitive? He 'jokingly' says he'd swap me for her any day of the week and when I don't laugh, claims it's just a joke, etc.

From your OP, it sounds like an ongoing discussion where he's refusing to take your feelings into account. I wonder if you've put it like that to him? That you don't actually find it funny and you don't know why he keeps telling you this when he knows you find it a bit upsetting?

Also, pregnancy is hard on your body image. Your body changes disorders fast and profoundly it's hard to have a sense of who you were. So be easy and gentle on yourself.

Pretty sure I would swap my husband for David Tennant.....

Or most of the England Rugby team ..

OP, did you resist the urge to post a sarky comment under your DH's status??

"If I wasn't married to OP..."

'I could wank over this photo in the comfort of my living room instead of furtively in the bog.'

'I could make an arse of myself trying to pull a celebrity.'

'I'd have to hit the gym for six months solid, get my teeth fixed, a hair transplant, a personality transplant and a cock extension, and she'd still probably not look twice at me because I'm skint and fart when I run.'

I bet your husband is glad he isn't married to me...

DH and I frequently joke that we would dump each other for various celebrities. For me it would be posting it on FB that would be a step too far. I think though, what matters is what you personally find acceptable. He should not dismiss your feelings by saying its just a joke. If something upsets you, within reason, he should stop doing it.

What, even Mike Brown? Jeez your poor DH must have terrible self esteem

Haha! Maybe not every member of the team.

Definitely Maro Itoje though.
I'm sure I'm old enough to be his mother though...

I think it's horrible to say he'd 'swap you for her'. He needs to stop doing that, you're not overreacting. It's low-level emotional abuse especially when you're pregnant and vulnerable.

Mumbod - you rock.

I wouldn't put it on Facebook either but my kids have been known to call a certain actor's character "Mummy's other husband". They know fine well that he isn't, they know he's fictional and that I wouldn't swap DH for all the world. DH says he would swap me for Kylie. I don't think any of that is unusual. Our marriage is secure and we love each other so we can tease a little. It's different if you don't feel secure.

I tell my boyfriend regularly if I bump into Jared Leto and he's willing, I ain't saying no! If he's willing for my boyfriend to be there as well then great if he wants just the two of us I'm sorry Bf, you're out!!
My boyfriend takes it in good humour and says he'd expect no less of me! It's a obvious joke unless Jared's reading and then its most definitely not a joke the important thing is it doesn't upset either of us!
That's not the case for you op. You need to te him, you find it hurtful and embarrassing that he's posting this on Facebook, and quite simply that he has to stop it or he may well find himself single!!

I'm not upset that he find her attractive. I'm just upset my the constant "I'd swap you for her" and I could just about cope with that if 1) he didn't imply that our marriage is an inconvenience as he'd really like to have sex with more attractive people and pretty much write that on Facebook. And 2) I didn't feel like a whale and look awful even when I make an effort because I'm pregnant and really do not look attractive.

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Its a hard one as on so.e relationships this is totally acceptable banter. Running joke on pur house that Chris Hemsworth is DS's real Dad, its a funny joke and we both find it funny. He likes Daisy Lowe but would never post it on FB. I spent months trying to find him a Daisy Lowe calendar for the laugh.

HOWEVER if either one of us got upset PR hurt we'd stop. That's where the disrespect comes in for me.
If you've told him it upsets you, he shouldn't do it. Simple as. Especially when you're glowing and beautiful carrying (both) your baby

I think he's being a twat.

Of course it's human nature to still fancy other people, and of course it's a fantasy as this celebrity and he will never meet.

However, it sounds like he is saying things to purposefully upset you and play on your insecurities in a public forum as it makes him feel somehow superior or more powerful. As if he'd have a chance in hell with the famous woman

He knows he upsetting you because you feel insecure at the moment. Dick move.

I think it's disrespectful and hurtful to do it on fb especially.

Loving some of your responses.

It would be a total deal breaker for me but I do have jealousy issues.

I shudder when I hear someone pass something hurtful off as a "joke".

Try to make you seem as though you have no sense of humour.

What a twat.

Anybody remember the mn-er who few years ago started a thread lke this. LOADS more came out along the way... he told her he wanted her to have a good body, like say.... Shakira.
she had two kids under three. #
she ended up leaving him and wishing him good luck with Shakira. Was priceless.

Mumbod your post at 09.12 I LOVE YOU!
You win the internet for that post alone.
I have just read it out to DH (who calls Carol Kirkwood the weather girl, Carol IWould but would never put this on FB as I would section his head parts) and he nearly peed laughing, You rock.

lay off of Tom BastardGoDarkly !

For me, it would not be the fact that he found her hot, but rather the public aspect/ facebook of it which is so shaming- but be assured, OP, that it is only shaming to your DH, who comes across as a massive ninny.

He should also be far more considerate of your feelings, esp if 6m pregnant.

It's discourteous to you.
I like old fashioned good manners.
You don't need to say everything you think. He needs to filter more he doesn't sound like a gentleman. .

Well, I mean, really.

There's a line, isn't there?

It's vulgar and coarse. Unpleasant.
Perhaps trade him in for someone with a bit more class.

Eugh he sounds about 12, yes we all fancy celebs but he's making a massive deal of it isn't he and publically declaring it on FB that he'd swap you, that's hurtful and not necessary.

You need to comment on every single man you see either on TV or out and about very vocally about how attractive you find them so he hears you loud and clear, I guarantee he will quit with winding you up about women.

My husband once said that he'd fuck Cheryl Cole's brains out (he was drunk). It still makes me angry when I think about it now!