DD has never had a boyfriend/kissed anyone/etc.

[19DDaughter]

She's 19. I'm just a bit worried. Would you be a little bit concerned? I don't really know what I'm concerned about, but it just seems a little worrying (for no reason that I can explain).

No I wouldn't be worried

I didn't do any of that until I was 18 and honestly I wish I had waited a bit longer

Nope, I don't think there is anything to worry about.
What do you think could be bad about not having kissed someone until you are 19 or 20?

How do you actually know she's never kissed anyone?

Well, I'm worried that she never will?

I don't know, I just remember that part of my teenage years were kissing the boy behind the bike shed, etc. it just seemed like that was part of the teenage years. I'm not saying that's what I think is right! I just considered that 'normal'.

Course she will one day

When she's ready and has found the right person

Does she actually want to? Is she worried? If she genuinely didn't/isn't then I wouldn't worry.

Because we talk? she is very shy and explains that she isn't fussed that she hasn't even kissed a boy, etc. but I feel like saying that means she is.

If she's upset,bothered about it,she can work(with help) on her self esteem,shyness etc. It's not a big issue really,especially if it's not affecting her life and she's happy.
What you definitely don't want is for her to do something she's uncomfortable with or not ready yet,just for the sake of being "normal".

I wouldn't be concerned. She's 19. She's an adult. Her sex life, or lack of it, is not your concern. I don't mean that to be rude, but it's really not. You probably wouldn't want her discussing your sex life, or lack of it, on an internet forum either.

She'll be fine. I didn't kiss anyone until my mid twenties and am fine. Anyway, I couldn't imagine anything more of putting on the romance front than having your mum encourage you (even with the best intentions) - how embarrassing!

Oh gosh I don't encourage her to do anything!! Now that would be a bit weird!!

I'd worry more that her shyness might be generally hampering as opposed to focussing on her lack of love life.

Might be worth considering what could help her general confidence, if she's willing to listen or accept you help.

Sorry, but the first thing that came to mind is "what about girls?"

Neither has my 19 year old. Im not bothered and neither is she.

DSs, 20 and 17, the same. Maybe we could introduce them?

*off not of

I wouldn't worry to be honest. Some people are just late starters. I was 18 before I did any of that but I went on to have my first dc at 23. Not saying that that is what you want for her! Just that a late start doesn't necessarily mean a thing.

Hm. I was like this at 19 and I didn't grow out of it. So I would be concerned. I'm an exceptional case, though.

Also, if she says she isn't fussed, but you think that means she is, is there anything she could say, or do, which would make you believe that she genuinely isn't fussed?

My DD was 18 before she did anything despite being pretty, friendly, sociable etc. It was just the way it was. She's at uni now and catching up fast from what I can gather! Don't worry about it. She'll be fine.

You're worrying over nothing. Not all of us spent our teenage year obsessing over boys. I didn't start dating until I was 19, and I'm perfectly normal (at least I like to think )

Maybe she just doesn't see the appeal of having many partners and would prefer to wait till she finds someone she feels she properly likes?

AndTheBandPlayedOn me too.

I am really happy that my teenage DCs feel less obliged to conform to some sort of norm than I did at similar age.

Dont press this 19DDaughter. If she talks, listen but dont pass on your concerns to her. The last thing your DD needs to feel is that she is somehow weird or 'missing out'.