Too nervous to date!

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Not sure how to overcome this.
I'm a single mum, mI'd 30's. I started online dating a few months back. Went on a couple of dates and could not relax the whole date. One date led to date 2 and 3 but we decided it wasn't meant to be. I then thought I'd stop as I didn't like Internet dating. Someone I was chatting to quite a bit requested me as a friend on fb. I told him I wasn't interested in dating and we remained friends. Chat a bit. Anyway at Christmas something happened and I thought right I need to get back out there so rejoined a site. This guy (friend) saw I was on there and asked me out. I know it sounds crazy but I feel he is too good looking for me. I am a size 14 and all my photos are head shots. I have told him I'm not super skinny. Truth is I'm not actually slim am I? I have arranged to meet him tomorrow and I feel sick. I'm going to be really nervous and my breathing goes all funny. I can't have wine as I'm driving.
I feel he is expecting something I'm not. He say I'm beautiful but he hasn't met me. I can't help but think I'm punching above my level. I'ts like I'm already expecting the rejection and feeling that. I think if I don't meet him I don't get hurt.

Thanks for today CockacidalManiac 😉 appreciate the advice. It's tough!
Thankyou everyone 😊
New rule : a few texts and a quick coffee!
I feel a little bad I don't feel anything now. He has contacted me and probably won't so that's quite easy.

You didn't think you could do it, yet you did.
Who knows about the next one; enjoy it for what it is.

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Bloody well done for getting out there and doing it! Now you know it's not that scary but I do agree with not wasting too much time chatting

I had a date that yawned all the way through and bought me fried egg on toast as a treat. I left fed-up and starving and messaged with a thanks but no thanks. He came back and was really put out, thought we had amazing chemistry😂

Just shut the door on Mr Boring and think...next!

I'm in the midst of mass messaging, from experience I know it's only going to end badly. I've lost interest already.
So glad you got over this, stick with the dating thread, we're ever so friendly and all going through the same

Thankyou everyone
I feel so so bad. He has asked me out on another date. I don't know what to say? I feel so horrible. So guilty as I allowed us to message back and forth for so long too.
I really don't feel anything. I just feel guilty.
What do I say. Oh this is so cruel!

Just say something about how you've enjoyed getting to know him but you didn't feel there was much chemistry between you two

Well done,,,😃 Do you not want to see him again then? Why don't you sleep on it?

He could have been nervous too...

If he was so boring she had to leave after an hour I wouldn't bother going for another one

It's so weird. So nervous as you can see from earlier posts. He's good looking but it was like instant. I felt nothing so I chatted and chatted. Still nothing. I remember looking at him thinking he is nice looking but it was so hard. I just wanted to leave. I feel so bad as our messages have been nice. I can't go out with him again. I actually want to cry I feel so bad. I can not believe how different it feels. Definitely learnt a lesson here. I will text him back now as its been over an hour. Poor him 😔

It's tough having to dump; not quite as bad as being the dumpee, but tough anyway. You know that you're going to have to disappoint or upset someone.

Don't feel bad for him, you don't owe him anything. Maybe he just relies on his looks rather than developing a personality who knows?