Too nervous to date!

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Not sure how to overcome this.
I'm a single mum, mI'd 30's. I started online dating a few months back. Went on a couple of dates and could not relax the whole date. One date led to date 2 and 3 but we decided it wasn't meant to be. I then thought I'd stop as I didn't like Internet dating. Someone I was chatting to quite a bit requested me as a friend on fb. I told him I wasn't interested in dating and we remained friends. Chat a bit. Anyway at Christmas something happened and I thought right I need to get back out there so rejoined a site. This guy (friend) saw I was on there and asked me out. I know it sounds crazy but I feel he is too good looking for me. I am a size 14 and all my photos are head shots. I have told him I'm not super skinny. Truth is I'm not actually slim am I? I have arranged to meet him tomorrow and I feel sick. I'm going to be really nervous and my breathing goes all funny. I can't have wine as I'm driving.
I feel he is expecting something I'm not. He say I'm beautiful but he hasn't met me. I can't help but think I'm punching above my level. I'ts like I'm already expecting the rejection and feeling that. I think if I don't meet him I don't get hurt.

I'm sure you'll rock his world when he sees you.

Aww thankyou CockacidalManiac
5 hours and counting. I suppose I can have one 🍷
I might arrive early. Should I arrive early and grab a 🍷
I hope I manage to stay off the loo.

Any alcohol will probably go straight through you

I orefer to go early get a drink and choose a table. I can then be facing outwards and near the loo. Maybe thinking escape plan?

Oh really! Oh god 🙈
Yes sitting down already 👍 good plan!

You can then watch the door and don't have to scan room for a face that you may not recognise. Or if later text and check the area he's sitting in.

A couple of Imodium might not be a bad idea

😂
Thankyou

I am ready to go! I have 20 mins to wait. My hands are numb.
I seriously don't know what to do. I feel really sick.
This is not normal. I'm not going to be able to speak 😔

Good luck

Aww this is so normal! This is exactly what I felt like before any dates... Also why I used to have a glass bottle of wine beforehand.
Good Luck, I hope you have a nice time

Join the dating thread, it's fab x

I was like you to begin with, just came out of a sexless marriage where I was put down a lot (called fat), when I kicked do out I joined online dating and within a hour I had loads of messages, people telling me I was pretty etc..etc.., first few dates were a bit scary but after a while I gained loads of confidence and was turning men away , now I hardly get nervious at all on dates. I do think it's best not to message loads before meeting, it often leads to disappointment.

I bet they're still there.

Still no news! Looks promising

Bom chikka wah wah
That's what I reckon.

cockacidal 😂😂😂

Hello everyone
Well well well.....you were all right.
Firstly I was early so waited outside. Almost choked on my own saliva I was so nervous. It was so so strange as when he arrived my nerves just disappeared. I walked into the pub and ordered a drink. He was very straight faced and I'm quite jokey. So him being straight gave me confidence, weirdly.
He was chatty but hard work tbh. Looked like his pics but not like how I painted him. I actually said I had to leave after an hour. Not sure if that's normal, but didn't think I could keep up with making conversation. Maybe he was disappointed. Not sure. Felt nothing. Not sure if that's normal either.
I texted thankyou for my drink. He replied and said thankyou with a smile and that was that!
I'm ok Thankyou all for asking.
Definitely had a good clear out this morning anyway 😂

That's a shame, but at least you've broken your duck. You now know that you can do it.

Broken my duck
It's scary out there!!

And I've left dates after an hour too, if it was too much like hard work. You might click better with the next one.

It's so weird how you think you know someone just via fb and texting. It was so so different. He was so different.
I so need a wine now! What a day 🙈

That's why I used to meet people quickly when I was OLD. Difficult to get a true feeling of how someone 'is' until you meet them.