I'm exasperated. I just got my daughter down after looking after her all day so DH could 'work' in his hobby studio (which to be fair brings in a little bit of money but isn't our main means of support). He's come in, sat down on the sofa and is reading the paper (and has been for the past TWO HOURS).
I suggested I get a parrot so at least I had someone to talk to and he just smiled and went back to reading the paper.
He says he is 'working really hard' in the studio and so can't help me with our daughter - as he has done for the past ooh about FOUR MONTHS, he's changed eleven fecking nappies since she was born 19 weeks ago, has NEVER put her to bed, says 'she doesn't want me, she wants you' at every opportunity and frankly I'm pig sick of it.
I've explained this to him rationally MANY MANY times, I've yelled at him, asked him how he is going to feel when his daughter turns round in a few years and asks why her daddy doesn't want to spend any time with her and he just says I'm being silly and that he DOES help. Yeah for about five minutes a day when HE wants to feed her.
If she craps herself he pretends not to notice the smell and then when she starts crying he hands her over so I can deal with it. I feel like flinging the nappy at him.
His father was pretty distant and I've discussed it with him and he admits that this is probably why he is distant (ha! he did admit it) but he isn't doing anything about it.
It's driving a major wedge between us because I feel so cheated. He said when I was pregnant that he'd help. But he seems to think that whatever he is doing (including spending up to 20 hours a week online chatting to his mates) is 'work' and what I do, well apparently that's what I'm meant to do.
I wanted to have another child, and I said to him 'how do you think I'm going to cope with two?' and he replied 'well other women do'. The whole bloody reason we both work part time from home is that we are supposed to share the load, or at least that's what I signed up for. Having said it's up to me to initiate sex round here so we've had it once since I had her so it's fairly unlikely to be an issue.
Oh and his invited his hoity toity neat freak friends round to stay tomorrow so they can get drunk with him while I put the baby to bed.
I feel like I'm married to a corpse such as the level of communication round here.