I've been dumped abroad.

[DumpedAbroad]

Came to see partner. LDR
Things were rocky. Wanted to try and fix things with a visit. Been dumped whilst here.

Am in a B&B. They have ghosted me. I went round to the house and they wouldn't even answer the door.

Have come back to B&B with a bit of shopping. I fly home midweek.

I'm so sad.

Please don't tell me to get out there an have fun. I have really bad anxiety and am devestated right now. Plus it's not a holiday destination and the weather is awful (people being told to stay inside etc)

I just want to go home :(

OP, that guy sounds like a total bellend. Who treats people like that?!
Agree with PP who said if you can get through this you can get through anything. I'm not going to tell you to "get out there and have fun", but I do think some self-care is in order. Things that you do purely for yourself, to make yourself feel good. Whether that's a beauty treatment, or PJs and netflix, or journalling, the gym, a phone call to a good friend... whatever you would do to treat yourself if you were at home.
I think beyond the immediate feel-good boost that you get from this sort of thing it reminds you that you're worth taking care of and that you're able to take care of yourself.

I second the suggestion of confiding in the B&B owner. In my experience help often comes from the strangest and least expected places. Talking about it will help you come to terms with it and I would rather confide in a stranger to be honest than some of the people that I know IRL. Good luck OP.

Try and find somewhere you can get a decent book or a couple of decent magazines -- think of it as a strange kind of rest, read, go for a long walk, clear your mind and "do" tell the B and B owners what has happened. Strangers can often be incredibly kind in this situation.

How are you getting on OP? Thinking about you and hope you are doing OK.

I've not been out of the room today. I feel like a weirdo but I just can't.

I'm just watching netflix. I'm going to have a nice bath in a bit and maybe buy a new book on my kindle.

Thanks for all the nice thoughts. It really helps.

You don't have to go anywhere unless you want to. Enjoy your bath, your snacks, and a rest. Tomorrow is another day.

Take care and look after yourself OP. I can recommend The Crown on Netflix 💐💐💐

I'm sorry you're having such a crap time. If I were you I'd stock up with writing pad and pencils and write it all out. Like a diary, not to send to him, mind you

Ahhhhh OP

This happened to a friend of mine. She met a guy, he lived in the US. Invited her to stay and paid for her flights.

Kicked her out on the third day of a ten day trip. She had no money and ended up living in a dive with what she thought was a brothel and a crack den underneath until it was time to go home! She was 18 at the time and very naive.

On the plus side - you're safe. You're going home soon. And you've lost a dickhead ex!

Chat on here if you need some company. I have anxiety too so I can imagine how you're feeling. But even a walk can help.

Ah OP, I'm so sorry sounds like a completely shit situation.

I had a similar (but not as traumatic) thing happen a few years ago - went to visit ex in another city, he dumped me about 3 hours later. It was late so he suggested that I still stayed over at his - tiny flat with one double bed and no sofa, him on the floor in the same room I yelled what the actual fuck are you thinking politely declined. Was luckily able to get the 24 hr bus back and had lovely friends waiting for me when I got home at 3am.

Take five minutes at a time - have that bath, read your book, Google some places to go. I find that writing down a plan with time frames helps me when I feel anxious - yours could have film times, walking routes, numbers of taxi firms/public transport times etc on it. Equally, don't beat yourself up if you don't feel up to it.

Horrible being dumped, horrible beingmlost and alone, horrible feeling anxious and like you have to put a brave face etc on it.

I don't have advice, I do know you're situation sucks.

How are you OP? Did you go out today?

Yes I went to the mall. I bought myself a note book. I had a burger and fries. I watched film and got a donut. I had a nice day.

I fly home tomorrow

OP glad you had a nice day

Safe journey home tomorrow OP.

One more sleep brave caterpillar then you'll be home. I think this might be your cocoon stage.. you're going to be a beautiful butterfly after this experience

Why has your username changed to lose its capital letter and hasn't highlighted as being from the OP?

Oh sorry. I name changed for this thread. If any of my family read it it's obviously me.

I don't know. When I went to my account I typed dumpedabroad in again. Is there a different way to do it?

Don't worry about it, OP.

Hope you get some support when you get home today.

Hope that you got home safely OP, and are starting to feel a bit better by now. Stay strong.

Horrible horrible person, what the hell were they thinking? Glad you've not got long to go now.