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Phone records

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herwegoagain123 · 17/01/2017 17:52

Realised two weeks ago that my phone records were with h as he pays for it. He knows all my passwords so no problem. Anyway I asked him for his as I feel we needed to be transparent after he had an affair 5 years ago. Wasn't going to look but realised things weren't as upfront as I thought. So for two weeks he kept saying he had sent me them on a spreadsheet Nope I said the kept forgetting. After a while reminded him. He insisted. But no.
So last night I said look they are really not there what is it? He mumbled something. Not correct. So he sent me another password and again not correct so he has lied to my face.
He has caused an argument and run off somewhere. He text me it was my fault as I had apparently asked in the wrong way. What is going on?

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PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 18/01/2017 15:43

gaah! multiple and that second icon I KNOW I typed in smile, not sad! #hatetheapp

Isetan · 18/01/2017 19:08

If transparency and respect are important to you, you're with the wrong man. 'Not asking in the right way' is his pathetic way of saying don't ask.

I'm guessing he's busy sanatising a downloaded version of his bills and if that doesn't fly, he'll fall back on the laughable 'Not asking in the right way' to silence you.

This is who he is and the price of being in a relationship with him is this bullshit. Personally, I wouldn't waste my breath trying to impress upon someone the impact of their behaviour, when they clearly don't give a shit.

You have choices, changing him ain't one of them.

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herwegoagain123 · 18/01/2017 20:41

The man is a buffoon. You are right AF I shouldn't be engaging with this pantomime. Looked at records but baffled by amount of numbers as he uses it for work. Don't want to go down the detective road. Its almost like he wants me too.
Will keep you posted!

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littleredpear · 18/01/2017 21:19

Herewe

Down load in PDF, convert to word and paste into Excel.

Filter on time, date and number or location. Look for calls post 6pm and at weekends.

Work calls do not happen at 2am on a Sunday morning.

Looking for repeating occasions of the same number outside of work hours first then weekends etc.

Enter any suspicious numbers into Facebook friend finder or add to whatsapp but don't send a message. Photos/profiles soon appear.

If you need me to do it give me a shout.

Bitter bitter experience taught me.

littleredpear · 18/01/2017 21:26

Sorry need me to help talk you through it

I'm not asking anyone to send me private phone records sorry Blush

loubylea · 18/01/2017 21:46

I found out about ex's affair by downloading the whatsapp app onto the mac then scanning his phone onto it,was then able to read all the messages between them in all their sickening glory...... its worth a shot if you get the password to his phone.

littleredpear · 18/01/2017 22:21

Yeah that was my next suggestion about the mac/whatsapp app.

Sorry OP it's shit, I've been through this and it's rotten.

I hope it's not what you think x Flowers

Jengnr · 18/01/2017 22:28

Sorry OP, I'm not clear what you mean by phone records? Do you mean bills? And you put every number into a spreadsheet? Or just the amount? Or am I all wrong?

Because if it's the former the relationship has had it.

Either way, it doesn't look good I'm afraid. Nobody storms out in a huff and picks up their laptop. And nobody at all takes a laptop to the chippy.

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herwegoagain123 · 18/01/2017 23:26

Liitlered thanks for the advice would save time. Didn't know you could filter. Christ I'm a buffoon too.
Jen it was phone bill records password. Even though could do to find out phone password too.
Not sure if I'm being duped or he is an bumbling idiot. Might get myself off to a SHL to be on the safe side and copy financials.
You couldn't make it up.

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herwegoagain123 · 18/01/2017 23:29

He uses a freakin Samsung. Changed his phone in November.

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BitOutOfPractice · 19/01/2017 05:06

I think once you've considered a SHL because you don't believe / trust, then the writing is really on the wall

littleredpear · 19/01/2017 14:29

Yeah once I engaged SHL there was no point in looking for any more or caring.

All trust gone.

It's still gone for me 15 months later so I wish you all the best Flowers

Phone type doesn't matter btw. They all have downloadable bills and whatsapp/Snapchat/DM on all other bloody apps.

Twitter DM was where I first found out but he's never sent a tweet in his life.

He got sloppy and started using Whatsapp.

I work in fucking IT. I just hacked him in the end.

Stupid fucker Hmm

BitOutOfPractice · 19/01/2017 15:29

Me too littleredpear Blush

littleredpear · 19/01/2017 15:43

It's amazing what people think it deleted but is easily recoverable.

I got chats and emails back to 2009.

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