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Phone records

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herwegoagain123 · 17/01/2017 17:52

Realised two weeks ago that my phone records were with h as he pays for it. He knows all my passwords so no problem. Anyway I asked him for his as I feel we needed to be transparent after he had an affair 5 years ago. Wasn't going to look but realised things weren't as upfront as I thought. So for two weeks he kept saying he had sent me them on a spreadsheet Nope I said the kept forgetting. After a while reminded him. He insisted. But no.
So last night I said look they are really not there what is it? He mumbled something. Not correct. So he sent me another password and again not correct so he has lied to my face.
He has caused an argument and run off somewhere. He text me it was my fault as I had apparently asked in the wrong way. What is going on?

OP posts:
Original poster
herwegoagain123 · 17/01/2017 22:50

Just realised when he went out he took his laptop!!! What the feck. Need to get a grip.

OP posts:
kittybiscuits · 17/01/2017 22:53

He took his laptop to the chip shop!? I think your divorce comment was exactly right.

Original poster
herwegoagain123 · 17/01/2017 22:55

Yes he just confirmed it! Said but how would it work without the internet? God he thinks I'm stupid.

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1DAD2KIDS · 17/01/2017 23:00

I hope you don't live in Scotland? Is so he need to be careful; they batter anything in those chip shops! That would be a waste of a perfectly good laptop.

SadTrombone · 17/01/2017 23:03

1DAD2KIDS
There's a time and a place mate. This isn't it.

tribpot · 17/01/2017 23:05

Somehow I don't see MI6 knocking on this guy's door to replace James Bond.

1DAD2KIDS · 17/01/2017 23:10

Op hope I haven't caused you offence. I have been where you are with my ex wife. But I do realise my way of dealing with the shit things in life may not be same as how others deal with the shit things in life.

I will leave it to you if you are offended by my battered laptop comment.

PitilessYank · 17/01/2017 23:20

I don't really see how 1Dad's comment was offensive!

Couldn't he just give you the logon codes, so you could go and look at the account/records directly?

NoMudNoLotus · 17/01/2017 23:21

1DAD I think your posts need to be either helpful or supportive ... random posts about your own ex-wife or attempts at humour aren't really in the best interests of OP.

PitilessYank · 17/01/2017 23:23

In 1Dad's defense, his posts about his ex seem relevant, and I don't really see anything wrong with an attempt to inject a little humor into a thread.

1DAD2KIDS · 17/01/2017 23:53

Let's put this back on track to what it's about. With regards to my humor the only person we should be concerned about if they are offended or not is op. Not if everyone else funds it in good taste or not. If you are op i am sorry. I just deal with life that way. It has got me through so much and trying to help. Please let not this distract from the point of the thread.

1DAD2KIDS · 17/01/2017 23:55

By the way my aim was to be helpful and supportive with a little lighthearted injection of humour.

Alfiemoon1 · 18/01/2017 08:50

Do what's app messages show up on phone bills they don't on mine just texts and calls

1DAD2KIDS · 18/01/2017 08:56

Personal I always thought WhatsApp was over internet/data connection so would so up on a bill? I could be wrong. Also even if it was he may be ignorant to this and scared to death it would be fond on the bill. He don't sound the sharpest tool in the box. It was my ex's ignorance of tech that was her ungluing

tribpot · 18/01/2017 08:56

No, they don't - they just come out of your data allowance if you send them whilst not connected to wifi.

I took 1DAD's comment in the spirit intended, a bit of gallows humour between fellow sufferers. On the other hand, taking your laptop to the chippie is extremely incriminating. Who does that?

1DAD2KIDS · 18/01/2017 08:57

Wound not show up*

BitOutOfPractice · 18/01/2017 09:06

This has got "guilty as sin" written all over it OP

What's your next step going to be?

1DAD2KIDS · 18/01/2017 09:08

If he was my ex wife he would tell you he was planning something really special on the laptop and did want the surprise to be spoilt. Make you feel really bad for it. Like to time I found sexy underwear that she said was for our anniversary and I spoilt the surprise. Made out I was going bonkers with my suspicion. I felt so bad. Turns out the underwear was for him and she had no intentions of them for me because his birthday is the same day as our anniversary. I later discovered they where a birthday treat for him the OM. The sick mind fucks some people play.

Viviene12 · 18/01/2017 09:09

If he has an internet bundle on his phone he can do a hotspot from the phone and connect the laptop through wifi (I can on my iPhone, no idea about other phones)- so that's how he could get the access.
WhatsApp messages do not show up on the bills as they are over data and don't use any text allowance - that's the whole idea. You can call through WhatsApp as well (quality is better than skype). I think there is a setting on the iPhone to show you which app uses the most battery life but frankly I can't see how this could prove anything.

1DAD2KIDS · 18/01/2017 09:11

She mysterious needed space on our anniversary. It still makes me sick to think of them together on our anniversary that day.

Sorry got carried away in my own issuses.

I guess the moral of the story is Don't let him spin this

LTBforGin · 18/01/2017 10:10

Did he give you an explanation for taking the laptop? I wouldn't consider taking a laptop out with me if I was in a strop and walked out........unless I wanted to delete something.

Avengerhart85 · 18/01/2017 12:15

If he has an iPhone he more than likely took his laptop to connect phone to iTunes so that he could update therefore deleting anything he had already deleted for good.

If not an iPhone perhaps he couldn't reset his passwords on his phone after deleting evidence so needed laptop?

Either way it screams guilty & he is trying to put it on you for 'asking the wrong way'

Hope you are ok OP Flowers

AnyFucker · 18/01/2017 12:22

He is an untrustworthy liar

And what other reason would he need to remove the laptop to the chippy of all places ? I think DAD was just pointing out the irony of such ridiculous shenanigans

Why are you even engaging with this bullshit, op ?

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 18/01/2017 15:41

I also thought 1Dad was trying to be helpful in pointing out what a crap liar OP's Twunt is. With so many freds on here there's so much gaslighting done by skilled liars, I also believe OP is in a better position than some. Cold comfort, I know Sad , but still.

Hope you're doing OK, OP. Smile

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 18/01/2017 15:41

I also thought 1Dad was trying to be helpful in pointing out what a crap liar OP's Twunt is. With so many freds on here there's so much gaslighting done by skilled liars, I also believe OP is in a better position than some. Cold comfort, I know Sad , but still.

Hope you're doing OK, OP. Smile

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