Am I reading too much into this?

[BWF1]

I'm in a relatively new relationship of a few months. DP has never given me any reason not to trust him but there is just this one girl I see all the time popping up on his Facebook and Twitter, they like each others posts and they talk alot on Twitter, nothing that has lead me to be suspicious until yesterday.

DP is currently abroad and he has had an article published in a magazine while he has been away. He had asked me to buy a copy for him, fair enough. Then this girl posted on social media saying I've received a mission from ........ (Where my partner is) then a couple of hours later posted a photo of his article with the caption ready for you when you get back.

This has lead me to think they talk outside of what I see on social media as until she posted yesterday there has had been no mention of his article on social media for her to otherwise know about it and the way she put 'mission recieved' he has obviously asked her to go and buy it.

I haven't said anything to him about it, he doesn't know I can see her posts as I'm not friends with her but she has a public profile.

From her previous posts I can see they have been on days out together, they share a hobby and have been to events together with regards to that but nothing else from what I can see.

Although last weekend she posted she was bored and he commented come out to .........(where he is) for the weekend. I thought it was a joke but maybe it wasn't?

Not sure if I'm loosing some clarity and reading too much into this or if it's something that needs addressing.

As far as I know she isn't aware I am in a relationship with him, there is no mention of me on any of his social media and alot of his recent posts he gets in there that he is alone abroad.

I keep thinking that if this was a guy he was taking to I wouldn't have a problem with it but because it's a girl I do, is this unfair? He isn't cheating on me as before he went away we spent too much time together for him to be seeing anyone else and she doesn't live locally, are they just friends or is it more than that? We are early forties if that bares any resemblance.

Kittencatkins to be fair I think it was just before the exclusivity talk but I can't remember exactly. There was no mention by her of anyone else being there with them, yes the event was to do with their hobby.

He was the one who initiated the exclusivity talk so maybe he met up with her then decided on me. Think if there is any history between them I will just look at it as he choose me but for whatever reasons I wont know why he is keeping her interest in him going, either he likes the attention, maybe they just get on well but no spark as to speak, maybe she is a back up if it doesn't work with me. I really dont know, maybe I was the easy option as I live near him.

Don't think confronting him at this point will get me any answers and would mean admitting to checking up on him and may lead to her changing her privacy so I can't see and for now I'd rather know what is being said so just going to give it some time as we said earlier, keep an eye on her Twitter occasionally but not let it come become between me and him, not yet anyway.

Everythingeverywhere, he didn't say she wasn't there but didn't say she was either, to be honest I didn't ask as didn't have any suspicion at the time. Going to give it some time and see if he proves himself either way as a cheat or as trustworthy

Honestly I think that's the best approach. I get the need to protect yourself, and I get that he wasn't honest, but if it was early doors, pre exclusive chat I don't think it's so bad (ie it's the kind of thing I might have glossed over if there had been any overlap in the early days of seeing someone non exclusively )

I do think he's a bit of a dick for keeping her engaged but it's maybe worth giving your relationship a bit more time and seeing if it fades/falls away naturally.

Have a lovely holiday together and don't give this stuff any thought!

Kittencatkins, thank you and thank you for all the time you've taken to reply it is very much appreciated

Would you be concerned if it were a man? If not, just let them be friends.

I personally can't see anything suggestive in the way you've described their encounters.

No worries!
I'm in a new thing myself and it's bloody tricky all this kind of stuff!
Have a fab time!

I don't get it why can't it just be friendship? You say yourself he is the type to chat to anyone, man or woman - that should in itself reassure you. Friends do small favours for each other - re his article - but sure;y if there was romantic interest he'd be in a relationship with her by now, both single! He obviously doesn't see her in a romantic light!

As for her, I don't think she has any hopes for more as he was single for years and didn't choose her as a GF. She is likely to see him just as a friend too.
The only thing i'd say I agree is that he does need to mention to people (incl her) that he's got a new GF. JUST in case she does have some misplaced hopes.
Btw there is private messaging on twitter and FB so sometimes they can write through that - there is no limit of 140 characters so if he wanted to expl;ain about his article, twitter public system would be a chore - he had to use many tweets to describe etc. Direct messages don't have this limit.

Why did he ask you to get a copy of this magazine for him, and also ask her to do it? Surely one copy is enough, or he could have asked you to get a couple, if he wanted to send one to his mum or something...

Seems he wants her to feel that she is his 'only', and you to feel the same, I'm afraid.

Seeing him 5 nights a week and communications the other 2 is OTT for such a new relationship IMO!

I don't trust him..... atall sorry

Nope, I don't either Bonny sorry op!!

He wants to say I love you etc etc
This reminds me of the way Willoughby treated Mary Anne in Sense and Sensibility. But he didn't actually say it-he is leading you on. "Hope.." is the same sort of thing ( he may hope it will happen but knows it won't). Listen carefully.

You only presume he has chosen you over her. His actions speak differently: he is giving this other lady alot of attention. He may be giving you alot of attention, too, but don't let that lead you to the wrong conclusion that you are the only one/ main one/ favorite one.

How far are you travelling to see him? Imho, it is much too early in the relationship to travel for him especially since he already has another lady travelling to him. That must be quite the ego boost for him. Is he paying your travel expenses?

I wouldn't trust him either. Don't do the "pick me dance". Trust your gut.